Sneezing on Tuesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Sneezing on Tuesday
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Tue, 05-07-2013 - 8:18am
Although I love all of birds, sunshine, and new flowers coming up, my allergies are wreaking havoc on me right now. My allergies have me so down that I came home and took a two-hour nap yesterday after work. On the upside, I felt so refreshed after my nap, I went to a one and a half hour yoga class that is awesome. Lots of work today, and I may take a rest day, although I may see if there's some yoga class to go to tonight. Mother's Day is coming up this weekend, and I realize that this could possibly be the last Mother's Day my mother remembers who I am. How's that for a downer? But, again, I have her now so I should be appreciative of the time that I do have with her. My daughter moved back from college this weekend. So, that should be interesting having her back. I also have a court date with her father next week, and the realization of paying him child-support For my son is going to be a reality shortly. It's only for another year, which is far less then how long he paid me child support. However, I spent a boatload of money on my children, whereas my ex is very frugal and will definitely not spend it all on our son. C'est la vie as the saying goes. Everyone, make it a great day. My motto for the last year has been, "every day, Do something that scares you and/or makes you smile."
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 05-08-2013 - 7:58am
SJ, I am so jealous of your swimming! 80 laps? I am envious. However, my chiropractor and physical therapist are confident that I will be able to return to swimming after I reteach my body how to be. For now, my pain is much less, so I'm happy about that. Jean, yes Miyax will be forced to pay for half of my daughters college. You still arguing some of the medical expenses. But I owe him for back child support and he overpaid as well. So, for the next year I will have to pay 20% of my income to him. C'est la vie. What annoys me more than anything, though, is that I will also have to pay all of my daughters college, and then take my ex back to court to sue him to pay for half of her college. It took my lawyer 2 meetings with his lawyer to get them to agree to pay half of the actual bill, and not half of what was listed the prior year in their marketing materials as what anticipated tuition would be. Obviously, tuition went up. I digress. Life is good.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 9:57pm
Karla, I would just tell people that you have other plans...you don't have to say what they are. And I would rather run in the rain than volunteer in the rain. FSN, enjoy every minute with your mom,.and your daughter. Jean, I think kids eventually inure out what the true story is with their parents and who supported thm and how...it just takes time. Gymrat, hope things continue to improve, health wise. I went to the gm today, 2 minute bike warmup, lifting for legs, abs, swam 80 laps.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 12:54pm

Did you get your ex to help pay for your daughter's college?  I'm enough of an instigator that I'd want my kids to know how much I was paying for child support so you'd know if it was being pocketed. My friend was telling me that she grew up really angry w/ her father because she had no money for clothes or anything. She wore clothes w/ holes in it and she thought he never paid child support. It turned out that he did and her mom was the one who kept it.  My friend brought it up w/ her father when she was an adult. It was really sad but she's the most forgiving person I know.  

I agree w/ the others about the race, Karla.  I'd probably go to help out but not run. Volunteers are so needed.

I'm working way too much this week, after having a few weeks of little work. I want to go back to little work!  It's hard for me to maintain focus for so many clients in a row.  My son is playing in districts right now for tennis and I should probably go but I really would rather not.  He's a senior so this will be the last time I can watch him play.  It's pouring out, though, and so far away!






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 11:15am
Congrats you! How awesome. As the resident boundary queen, you could use the race opportunity to set boundaries with people who are making assumptions that you'll attend.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 11:09am

Fresh, it is somewhat difficult to have a grown child come back after being out of your home for a while. Trying to remember that your child has become an adult is such an odd feeling. You actually may find that you get along even better because your child now understands responsibility and why you have made some of the rules/decisions you have made.

Gym, I know. I don't have to do it. And I probably won't but until Saturday morning I have to listen to the constant reminders about the race and it makes me very uncomfortable. I know everyone is well meaning but there are several of us "regulars" at the gym who have no intention of running that race. In the rain. lol

I know I've never told you girls this, but I am working a pt job as an administrative assistant/desk clerk. Back in December about 2 weeks before I graduated with my AA in Office Administration, I was approached about a job. It has been many years since I've worked out of my home and I was nervous but very thrilled at the chance of using my new job skills. I started the job mid January and I am so happy I did it. I am loving working and being around people but it has been incredibly challenging to balance homeschooling, taking care of my granddaughter, my job with iVillage, and family obligations. One thing for sure, if being active keeps you from aging too fast, I've definitely jumped into the fountain of youth head first. ;-)

Karla
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 9:22am

FSN, good luck with the transition of having your daughter come back to live with you.  It can be a strange adjustment for both of you. 

Karla, you know you don't have to go to the race, right?  You're a grown-up and too old (and I mean that in the kindest way possible) to be victim to peer pressure.  You've had enough turmoil in your life recently that if you want to spend race day staring at wall in your jammies, you've earned the right to do so.  

I did cardio this morning and I've got an appointment with my friend/ENT.  I think my allergies are responding better to the new meds but I'm not sure that I am where I should be.  We'll see what he says.