Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 8:11am

Omg, such relief?  Although I know I have to drive dd to the bus stop Sunday evening because dd's boyfriend STILL hasn't told his parents, officially, that he is dating her (6 monthsmother his parents told him he is not allowed to date anyone that is not of their faith) so she can't catch a ride with her boyfriend's dad.  Geez.  I just pray that this doesn't last because it would be a life filled with conflict.  Oh we'll, it's her life to live.  Am I too liberal?

I go to the doc this morning.  Frankly, I think this is just taking a LONG, LONG time to recover from.  Depending on what the doc thinks, I may (or may not) work today.  I am certainly not working out!  At least one positive element of this flu -- I have started the weight loss, but I have a feeling it is mostly muscle turning into fat, so I anticipate weight gain as soon as I get back to the workouts.  my clothes seem to fit the same on my waist whicme indicates, to me, that I am officially in menosuck.

what are you all up to?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 10:31am

FSN, I don't know about too liberal.  You are correct that this is her life to live and honestly, it's probably a good growing pain for her to go through.  There are lots of biases in the world and this might be a good lesson for her.  I'm glad you're seeing the doc.  Let us know what the verdict is. 

I think I had flu weight loss too.  I hadn't weighed myself since right before xmas and I was dreading it...  and completely shocked.  :P  I suppose that's only fair though since I spent 4 feverish days praying for death.... 

I did a ho-hum elliptical workout this morning.  I'm getting back into this slowly.  I have one client this morning.  Tonight, we're going to a birthday dinner.  Going to see Zero Dark Thirty tomorrow with OP and I have a girls' night tomorrow night.  I'm going to try to take it easy (and moderate my eating) inspite of all that.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 12:57pm

Wow Fresh, that is not a great way to start off a relationship. Hopefully for her sake, it won't last since his parents are so adamantly against it. I married a man with different religious beliefs and his parents weren't too happy about it but they liked me. Mine never had a problem with his religion. It has presented problems over the years because it is a very difficult obstacle to overcome. 

I'm going to just do cardio today and spend the weekend working on the walk-in closet. I still have half a mountain of papers to sort through. 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Sat, 01-12-2013 - 11:24am

Well, the doc gave me an inhaler and a cough suppresant to help me sleep.  He told me that they have cots in the hallways at the hospital because this flu is so bad.  He said some people are recovering in a week, some more, it just depends.  Incidentally, it was one year minus one week, when I came in with the same flu like symptoms.  Hah!  And last year I got the flu shot, so...whatever!

I just cleaned the kitchen and am now exhausted!  DD gets home in a couple hours. I feel like I should do something with her, but perhaps that will wait until tomorrow.

Re: dd, yes, I agree that this is her life to live, but it is painful for me, as a parent, to watch her enter this web of issues...not that anyone could have told me any different when I was her age, though.  My first husband was a jerk, and many people around me saw it, but I ignored those warning signs.  C'est la vie.

It sounds like you are on the mend.  Did you get a secondary infection or are you just slowly getting better?

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Sat, 01-12-2013 - 11:26am

No, it's not.  But I can see how dd got whisked off her feet.  Her bf is handsome, intelligent, and articulate.  His father knows he is dating her but I suspect that the mother does not, and I do not know if the father and mother talk about those issues.  Their's is a faith where arranged marriages are the norm, and they may already have his wife picked out?  I really don't know.  Again, c'est la vie.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Mon, 01-14-2013 - 5:58pm

People need to learn to make mistakes and as much as we want to protect our loved ones from hurt, we can't/shouldn't.  Besides, they're young and this is the time to learn.  And, what could you do anyway?  We all know how well it works when parents try to break up relationships.