Thunderous Thursday....

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thunderous Thursday....
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Thu, 12-19-2013 - 8:58am

At least, that's what it feels like to me.  Late last night, I learned that the division I work in was sold to another company...and happy holidays, by the way. I am not good with change since there is a black hole of questions that are unanswered.  :(. First, historically, the buying company usually gets rid of the majority of the bought company's employees.  Second, I essentially will lose the 10 year history/reputation that I built up at my current company.  Then, there are a million more questions about my pension, 401k, company culture, etc., etc., etc.  it is much easier to tell another person to "let it go" and "things will work out" than to put it into action.

A least I had fun Linedancing last night, and tonight I have a salsa class.  :). I Al's need to prepare for my family coming in on Sunday.  I have a LOAD of work to do!  What are you all up to?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 9:10am

Oh, FSN.  How stressful for you.  Two things - perhaps it's time to polish/update your resume.  You may not need it but if you do, it'll be ready and it might help you feel a little more in control.  Second, you are a strong woman who has weathered a lot (and I only know you online!).  If something happens, you will persevere.  I would bet this job is exacerbating your health issues so if you do get laid off, it might be a blessing in diguise.  

I'm feeling better but going to rest as much as I can today.  No workout and no training.  Worked on some writing proposals and such this morning.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 11:27am

Fresh, I find your post incredibly interesting. My sister found out a few days ago her division of her company was sold. She will keep her job but her healthcare coverage is going to cost so much that it doesn't make any sense for her to continue working there. She said she is stunned over the costs she was quoted to keep her family's insurance coverage.

I hope your situation works out really nice for you. I don't adapt to change like I used to so I understand your anxiety level right now. I know it is easier said than done but please try to find ways to destress.

I had to deal with a flat tire yesterday morning and this morning I get up and one of my hubcaps is gone and another looks like someone tried to pry it off. I am so pissed over it. Obviously someone has been messing with my car. Grrrr!

We are supposed to have record warm temps today and tomorrow with high winds and possible threat of severe weather. lol It's crazy how wildly the weather has been swinging lately. I plan to get out and do some walking-no running today if I get a chance. I've been strictly following doctor's orders and I am seeing improvement in my achilles injury. I've now heard many stories from other people who didn't listen to the doc and had to have surgery, etc that I am making sure I do what I am told.

SJ-congrats on your every day in December exercise! Once I get my injury healed, I may pick a month and do that too. :-)

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 5:07pm
FSN-what bad timing for stressful news. Does this I vision control the new drug that just got approved? You might be better off in anew company, you have certainly had issues with managers where you are. Maybe the arrogant young un will see the door. Your sales contacts are valuable, and it sounds like your liens are a good part of your job....so Pollyanna says wait and see....and freshen up the resume...Gymrat, are you still proposing a free sex toy with every new house...or whatever that was? Karla, I think the weather world has gone mad....good for you for resting, and swimming is a great low impact, high cardio workout. I am still sad...at times like this I wish I were in therapy so I could tell some one how I feel without it impacting them...I know it will pass, but I can definitely feel myself spiraling down....I am working on a nightmare project (I usually work on the nightmare ones...to try to fix them) and I am really clashing style wise with the lead on the project...other leaders re clashing with each other...everyone is looking to not end p o blame...I know I on't, and I on't much care, but I hate being questioned or how I do something...what I am doing isn't in question, just that I let people know that I think their performance isn't acceptable...other people think it, but they stay nice...which to me fixes nothing...and when I am in nice mode, I don't get a lot of response...that added to the holiday sadness has me spinning. But I have a great job, loving family, everything I ever really wanted in life, so I know I should not complain....this too shall pass...I just have little capacity to be unhappy. My workout today might be that I walked up 100 stairs at he train station...we'll see how late it is when I get home...maybe ome abs...
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 6:43pm

Thank you, ladies.  I truly appreciate your support.  The funny thing is that I KNEW this was coming, even a year ago, but when I finally read the newspaper article, it emotionally HIT me like fast-moving-train!  I feel like a lion licking her wounds right now, ready to come out fighting.  I think everything will work out well, but it seems to be "my nature" to have a strong fight of flight symptom that sends my mind reeling.  After a few days, I will be fine, but that first day or two is treacherous!  I was so stressed, that I could feel a cold coming on (I get sick easily when I am stressed), so I opted for my pajamas, vitamin C, and the netipot tonight, along with a movie by the fire and a martini.  :D  I will go to yoga tomorrow morning for more r&r...and perhaps I will do some eliptical, too.  :D  I have lots of cleaning, shopping, and cleaning to do before my family comes in on Sunday.  It should be a nice Christmas celebration.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 10:16pm

LOL on the free sex toy with every new house.  That is hysterical.  Laughing

A lot of people have a tough time with the holidays.  You never know - commiserating with a friend just might bring you closer.  I know more people who have a tough time or just outright dislike the holidays than people who love it.  I'm pretty sure that's why my therapist is so busy in December.  Perhaps it would be good to make a plan for next year.  I'm sorry you're having a tough time. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Fri, 12-20-2013 - 12:07pm
Gymrat, thanks. I actually have a plan...and it was going ok,but something that happened Wednesday went very differently than I planned...and one of my negative traits is that as soon as I am disappointed by something, I get unglued....i know this andi have learned to not act on my feelings, but I definitely beat myself up instead. I end up feeling that because one thing went wrong, everything will go wrong,and so wanting to opt out of everything to protect myself from hurt. I get to a place where I question all the big decisions in life that got me to this point, all the what-ifs and if- onlys....eventually, something good will happen, or something will remind me that I actually am happy with my life. Until then though, I am sad...really sad.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 12-20-2013 - 1:36pm

That sounds so familiar.  I am generally kind of a high strung person but I started anti-anxiety meds a few years back and it has really helped me become less of a basketcase.  Hang in there.