Turkeys on Tuesday

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Turkeys on Tuesday
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Tue, 11-20-2012 - 7:58am

I thought Jean was going to post but she hasn't so I will.  

I am feeling better but still planning to take it easy.  I was able to get an appointment with my girlfriend's allergy doc for tomorrow so I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and see what he says.  I slept terribly last night... not sure why.  I think I'm probably getting amped up for turkey day.  My plan today is to rest and make a pumpkin cheesecake.  

Not sure on food.  I think my taste buds have left.  :P  

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 8:17am

Ugh.  I've a often wondered about not having taste buds...it's a side effect of some viruses, and I actually know someone who has that...{{{hugs}}} to you

because I know how stressful it is to host Thanksgiving! Emotionally, I feel like a boxer who got their butt kicked, yesterday. Although I don't know if it was a good idea to give up custody, I sure am tired of fighting. My son will not follow my direction, and he is big enough (in size) to do something about it. I hope he is not a psychopath and goes ballistic, blaming his mother, as you see on the news. Okay, enough wallowing. I had a nice time with my daughter. I have work today, light cleaning, packing, and then I leave to visit my mother tomorrow. THANKFULLY, her friend invited us over for Thanksgiving, so 8 don't have to cook. YEA. I will take lots of pictures, of course, and make chocolate covered strawberries. I come back early on the weekend for a party to attend with dh. Maybe I will take pictures there, too. I think I will forgo the workout to spend time with my daughter...perhaps more shopping. It's a guilty pleasure of mine. :)
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Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 8:50am

Fresh, I'm so sorry to hear your news about your son. Everything may change in time.  My sister has been through a nightmare with her daughter but things are finally starting to turn around a little for them. Sister's dd just turned 20 and she suddenly is aware that she isn't going to get anywhere in life if she doesn't start following rules. Life has shown her that maybe her mother isn't such a bad/evil/whicked/stupid/(fill in the blank)  person after all. 

Glad to hear you and your daughter are doing well! 

Karla
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Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 2:27pm

I forgot to post the journal this morning. It suddenly occurred to me that I had some time and could get to the DMV for a new license w/ my new name.  I went to spinning and then lunch w/ friends after.  It's been nice having a day off and I'm wondering if I should arrange my schedule to have more time off, if it's do-able.  I'm still getting bored in spinning and need to find something to do in the gym.  I really don't see any class that I want at this point.  I might try Masala Bhangra tonight.  It's an intro.  






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Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 2:29pm

You temporarily gave up legal custody but that doesn't mean it will always be this way.  Kids change at the drop of a hat and it does sound like your son has times when he realizes what he's missing. It can't be easy, though--hugs.






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Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 2:30pm

Exactly!  It's like what Mark Twain said about leaving home at 18 because he couldn't stand how ignorant his parents were but when he returned a few short years later, he was surprised at how much they'd learned.  






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Tue, 11-20-2012 - 9:28pm
Jean - what did I miss? You have a new name? FSN - enjoy your daughter...and I hope you find peace with your decision. Perhaps you can find a way to be a presence in your son's life without being the custodial parent...Gymrat - hope you enjoy all the holiday prep. Karla- just saying hello... This was semi my last day at work this week - I will call into a few meetings but that is pretty easy. My department had a surprise breakfast to wish me Bon voyage today..I almost surprised them because I was running late...so there was a crowd at my desk when I arrived. It was really nice because I sit with a different group than I work with...and I have been in a few groups and people from each group came by. I was totally shocked and really pleased. Many people know that this is something really big to me because I turned down some opportunities due to my mother and so that I am having this chance is really important to me. I went to the gym, 18 minute bike warmup, lifting for legs, abs. Still no running and no swimming. I don't know what I am doing tomorrow...working out at some point but whether I will travel for Thanksgiving tomorrow or Thursday I haven't decided. Truth be told, I would rather just stay here....my brother is traveling with the military, so I will be with my sister in law and nephews and her brother and family. I feel a little like an orphan...I delayed going to Poland to be able to go to Thanksgiving not knowing my brother wouldn't be there. And of course I can't really tell the others that they are chopped liver and I don't want to go...but it makes me feel even more alone to be with 'not my family' than to be alone. I am staying in Poland for Christmas and I am happy about it..because I feel like I don't belong anywhere anymore...in 2013 I am going to really work at feeling enough all by myself.
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 9:17am

Thank you, thank you, thank you for all of your lovely sympathy and sentiments.  It really is appreciated.  Giving up legal custody also probably means that I will have to pay child support.  Hopefully, I can exchange that for all of the medical and college bills I am paying.  It's a YUCK situation.  Hohoho.

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 2:56pm

I finally changed my name to my married name, legally, after 20 years.  I used my married name socially and my maiden name professionally but it's gotten messy, eg. at dance I teach under my maiden name but am known as my daughter's mother under my married name; I did ski clinic under my married name but when I became an instructor, I used my maiden name. It was too much to keep track of so I officially changed it. LOL, it took me long enough.

That's an awesome goal for 2013.  I think you learn a lot by learning to be alone.  And, you still have people in your life--just ones you can choose to be with, or not.






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 6:28pm
That is a long time to have two names...my last name is Swedish...interestingly, my sister in laws maiden name in English translates to our name in Swedish...she didn't so much change her name but translate it into a different language...they have now been married so long she's had her married name longer than her maiden name...