Advice needed re: nosy friend
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|Tue, 10-16-2012 - 9:23am|
I have a friend whom I enjoy but find I can't spend large amounts of time with because she really starts to annoy me. Therefore, she is not really on my "short list" when I organize small groups to do things. Unfortunately, she apparently feels that I need to invite her to everything and if something comes up that we attended that she was not privy to, she will make a comment or ask why she wasn't invited.
This past weekend at the concert, we met up with 3 friends. One of them is the person I would consider my best friend and we were talking about the food festival we'd gone to last weekend (which included my DH, OP, best friend's partner and another friend - very small group). Nosy Nancy said "I didn't get a phone call about that..." AWKWARD.
It makes me so uncomfortable when she does this. My response was to pretend to be busy on my phone while best friend said "I think we made these plans a long time ago...." and then proceeded to change the subject.
I KNOW Nosy Nancy does things all the time and doesn't invite me (which is totally fine). What I don't understand is the "entitlement" she seems to have when it comes to my social life. I'm fairly sure part of it is that she's single and she's one of those people that doesn't do "alone" very well. She has social engagements (sometimes multiple) nearly every day. It's gotten to the point where I find myself having to walk on eggshells around her simply to avoid an awkward moment. There are 4 of us girls getting together Friday night for a girls' night. All of the girls plus Nosy Nancy (plus about 10 other people) will be at my house Saturday evening for a game night so it's entirely possible it will come up. Oy.
I would appreciate suggestions on how to handle her/what to say. I really don't do "awkward" very well.