Trouble shared is trouble halved (?)

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Registered: 10-19-2002
Trouble shared is trouble halved (?)
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Tue, 10-23-2012 - 1:26am

I've known that in Switzerland every year there are 17000 arranged marriages, i'm not the only one in this condition. Yesterday i escorted my husband in the capital city, i had some problems in the restaurant because at every bit i had to lift the lower part of the niqab to insert the fork but in any case i broke the routine. In this context a woman's face and body are considered precious and only a close male relative can see them, a woman must be modest and i regret my behaviour in my late teens. The loss of freedom was a sort of gift because i've learned to turn pain in something of positive.

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Thu, 10-25-2012 - 8:20am

Hi Aisha,

Great to see you back! Do you find you get treated differently because of the way you dress? How so?

Karla
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 10-25-2012 - 7:01pm

Do you go many places in public?  Do you usually go with your husband?  Do you sometimes go with other women?

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 10-19-2002
Sat, 11-10-2012 - 3:23am

I spend most of my time at home, i'm allowed to go out only if veiled and possibly escorted by a close male relative but sometimes i go out alone or in women's company when necessary. About my clothes i have no choice, women here are veiled of black, it's the only way to have a public space :-( .

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 11-14-2012 - 11:44pm

How did you discover iVillage?  Do many of your friends in your homeland visit iVillage or other message boards?

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 10-19-2002
Thu, 11-15-2012 - 2:18am

I discovered this message board in Switzerland, i suppose to be the only one in this context, i don't know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2002
Thu, 11-15-2012 - 2:18am

I discovered this message board in Switzerland, i suppose to be the only one in this context, i don't know.