Visualisation - any experience?

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Registered: 08-28-2013
Visualisation - any experience?
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Wed, 08-28-2013 - 3:58pm

Hi all, I hope this is the right place to post this question.

I am in my mid-40s and in a career bind. I have what is considered by the world to be a good job, in a good company, but I am unhappy. I don't enjoy the content of my job very much, and feel my efficiency and goodness has been abused and everyone takes me for granted. I am also tired. I am scared to take a break. One of my greatest flaws is worry and disaster scenarios. Also loss of confidence. I am angry and have angry conversations in my head all the time with my boss.

Recently I asked for a change at work. Then I found out my old boss was coming back as my new boss and I am now less than thrilled about it, but I'm not really keen on the old job either (which I am still doing till the changes kick in). I feel like I made a dysfunctional decision. I have been to counselling for a few months (which got stalled as the counsellor wasn't available) and I don't know if it's because of that but I am calmer (but not happier) than before. Relatively. 

I have been thinking about visualisation but I know that wanting something is not enough to achieve it. I have to do something too to make it work. But I am afraid that my unhappiness/discontent is something I can never get rid of. I know what I don't want to do. There are only a couple of things I want to do. Does visualising a state of happiness work enough? What do I do to supplement the visualisation? I don't even know how to begin looking for another job - I don't want my name on job Web sites because I hear the best jobs are got through personal contacts and I have been telling the odd person about it but inside I don't feel ready to shift yet.

Please help me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012
Sun, 09-29-2013 - 9:47am

I don't really care for my job either but I am too afraid to change right now. I know that cuts are being made in many companies to make the way for the new healthcare requirements and I don't want to change jobs and then wind up being part time because of cut backs.

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Registered: 08-28-2013
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 3:01pm

Thank you, AlvieJo, I didn't expect that anyone would have answered when I didn't see answers for a few days.

I got what I consider a second chance at work but am all aflutter about it again - there is so much fear whether I can live up to it. I'm trying to be positive and take it one day at a time but it's quite frightening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2013
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 10:33am

I don't know much about visualization but I know a lot of people who went through the same type thing in their 40s with their jobs/careers and I have to wonder if it some sort of mid-life crisis. They have lived a little then got comfortable and then they want to live again and experience some joy and excitement. At the same time, they are more than aware they have a decent job and are afraid of making a mistake by changing jobs. Many of them changed jobs and still felt the same so made other changes in their life (hobbies, crafts, lifestyle) and then found the happiness they were looking for.

I know you have to be living with horrible stress over the job. If you can afford to change jobs then I say go for it. You might enjoy the shake up.