More and more gifts every year

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Registered: 01-03-2001
More and more gifts every year
Tue, 11-27-2012 - 8:50am

Do you get gifts for every member of your family (children, spouses, grandchildren, siblings, nieces, nephews and their spouses, your parents, etc) or do you give to only certain ones? I have come to the point in my life where my family is expanding fast and the holidays are becomming overwhelming with gift giving. Where do you draw the line with gift giving (or do you)?


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Registered: 10-19-2000
Mon, 12-10-2012 - 1:12pm

We gave up buying for everyone many years ago.  There got to be way too many of us and it became nearly impossible to buy for all. We began exchanging names for the adults and buying practical and not expensive gifts for the kids.  But that was before the numbers got as high as they are now!!!   Besides, now it seems that everyone seems to think they need a new electronic some-thing-or-another! That would make the costs far exceed my budget anyway!

There is one gathering at which we still exchange gifts, but we draw names so the obligation is minimal ... and that bunch has only adults!

I stay away from gatherings where there are youngsters.  Sorry, folks, I do NOT like kids these days....90% of them are *brats* and I cannot tolerate being around them.  So I just stay away from them as much as possible!!!  I also do not do parties at which there is lots of alcohol being served ~ drunks are bigger brats than kids, and far less tolerable!

I do decorate my home ~ but that is for ME!  LOL   I like Christmas; the carols, the pretty lights, the friendliness (in most cases!)....but I do not enjoy the cold weather so I tend to stay inside a lot more these years!

There are times when I begin to wonder if I am becoming a royal “stick-in-the-mud”!!!

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Tue, 12-04-2012 - 11:56am

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Avatar for emty_nstr
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Registered: 05-25-1999
Mon, 12-03-2012 - 6:33pm

There comes a time, I feel that things have to come to a halt. Unless you are very wealthy it really gets to be a real problem. And to go into debt for Christmas gifts to me is silly. As much as I would love to buy something for everyone I know it just isn't going to happen.

And the money isn't the only thing. Here are some reasons that we have changed our Christmas to a summer picnic with no gifts just food and fun..

First of all, there comes a time when 20-maybe 50 people in a house is just nerve racking. And again unless you have a very big house you can just pull your hair out.....HO,HO,HO....

Then what happened to our family is we would only see most of them once a year, on Christmas. Things change, you think you know someone and now when they are 40 years old you haven't a clue about what they would even like. Always fun to give someone something that they liked when they were 18 and think they STILL  liked that...

Then there are the kids. There was a time when grandma and grandpa could get all 15-20 grands a pair of socks and they would be so happy. Well, now unless it comes with internet they are NOT  going to be might still be safe with the five and unders but don't count on it.

For me I don't go out in the crowds in Dec. nor do I decorate anymore. But I do remember have 25 people in my little house the noise and the food all over plus not being able to enjoy the family or the day....I am sorry to me no amount of holiday cheer would perk me up.....I was just glad when people went home...And that is the part I hated most of all. You haven't seen someone for a year or more and things are so bad that you can't even talk to them...

What happened with us is that with so many kids my folks had 6 there are 17 at least grandkids which now is don't make me add up the next generations. so, We have a picnic in the summer. It starts about 10 in the morning at the shelterhouse in the park. We have one of the stores fry the chicken and everyone brings something. And our own utencils... the kids play and we could play with them, sit and talk to people, eat, then visit more till around 4 or 5 and we go home with very little mess and everyone puts the tables back and we sweep and go home. Everyone is a lot more relaxed and happy.

What do we do on the Holidays anything we want we are retired, So if one of our kids invite us for a meal on Thanksgiving or Christmas which the have since we retired we go there if sometime they don't we are content to stay home with each other.

I still like the Holidays, I love the tv movies and the decorations but if we decorated now I am afraid we wouldn't have to next year because they would still be

We just have fun with our retirement. And don't feel bad that our kids have to carry on traditions for us the important thing is to be with family and ours is just in the summer when we can enjoy them more.


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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sun, 12-02-2012 - 8:10am

I am younger then you but as a similar problem and this is how we do it and that might help you.

Kids until the age of 18 gets gifts and the rest dont. If we how ever do want to give anything for the ones over 18, we give candy to the whole family to share.  I tend to go to a chocolate factory and get fresh, second grade chocolate, they might not look pretty but they are so good and then pop them into nice jars. I save all my jam and pickle jars over the year and fill them at christmas.  

This christmas I have it some what easy people asked if I could  skip the candy and give them  bread  or cookies and that is fine by me.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Fri, 11-30-2012 - 11:37pm
On my side, it's my 3 dd's & 3 sil's, the 4+ grand kids as well as my sister. Dh has MIL, BIL & 2 nieces. I take care of everyone but MIL& BIL {their dh's problem} we have 8 bd's between the end of Oct & end Jan on top of Christmas. We have 4 grand kids with 1 on the way, so that is always exciting for me
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Registered: 10-09-1999
Fri, 11-30-2012 - 1:35am

I guess most of you know that my husband I do not observe holidays except pass over or Easter. But when I did do Christmas I tried  to buy for everyone until the number of people started to grow., Then as things happen every time every one got together there would an argument over something. I think the last one was the grand-kids had to eat in the next room but my son was only 6 months old so of course I kept him by my side. People can be such tarts over things..After that we didn't buy for every one. I just got for my parents and my kids and hubby and he did like wise

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Registered: 06-15-2002
Thu, 11-29-2012 - 1:21pm

I get gifts for everyone in my family...that includes husband, son, son's gf, daughter, brother, bil and sil.  PLUS, I get gifts for my closest friends' grandchildren---16 gifts in all!!!  Yikes!