The anything goes attitude

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Registered: 04-11-2012
The anything goes attitude
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Mon, 07-14-2014 - 9:32am

I am not all that old, but old enough to have noticed that the general attitude of the people in the US is more of an "anything goes" type attitude. I'm not saying it's a bad thing but I can see where it could lead to problems for future generations. I think it's encouraging a lack of self-discipline. People my age and younger don't seem to have a lot of work ethic and I'm stunned over how many people I know living off assistance and they see nothing wrong with it. Maybe there is nothing wrong with it. I just don't know. I feel as though somewhere there needs to be some sort of rules and guidelines but maybe my thoughts are old-fashioned and the new "free living lifestyle" is really what it is all about. I hope this makes sense.

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Community Leader
Registered: 02-14-2000
Thu, 07-31-2014 - 6:48am

I AM all that old and agree with you. So many people are abdicating what *I* see as their responsibilities to others, their communities and the world! "Me first" and "If it feels good, do it." should also be slogans! I know that locally; volunteering is down, committees and Boards and advisory groups are begging for help, food bank donations are down and more things requiring a commitment of unpaid time have closed  down.

Graffitti, vandalism and misdemeanor crimes are up. What were meant to be agencies of last resort are being inundated with "entitlement" applications. Some rules/laws/policies and ordinances are not being enforced for lack of people power....even PAID people. Public agencies are laying off while demand for their services is growing. Some of it is due to a poor economy, some to more people having to work for survival or all the things they "need".

But, I've wracked my brain trying to figure out when this all started and what caused  it! The economy, yes. The media, definitely. A sense of entitlement to what used to be privileges is another. But, there must be much more at work that I'm missing.

Great topic!

 

Marti

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Community Leader
Registered: 11-15-2001
Sat, 08-02-2014 - 6:36pm

I am all that old and yes, my take on things are "old-fashioned." What concerns me most is how much children have today - iPads, personal computer, cell phones, and the list goes on. Parents give these things to their children without them having been earned, (mow the grass, take the garbage out, yada) just simply because every other kid has all that. Parents are much more lax than they should be. I've seen so many kids that the parents say, "Not my child", "I'll SPEAK to them", and on and on. I was raised on a farm and I had to earn my own spending money by doing chores and whether I would be able to go to someone's slumber party. And speaking of that, slumber parties were either only girls or only boys. Nowadays, boys and girls together. Say what? Oh, it's scary!

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Community Leader
Registered: 02-14-2000
Sun, 08-10-2014 - 4:51pm

I also agree with you champagneonice. Even when my 48 year old DD WAS 17 and sneaked out and came back drunk, I coerced the name of the driver and other kids out of her. I called all their parents the next morning and got "Not MY kid", "So, why are you calling?", "Thank God it wasn't DRUGS!" and "Mind your own business!"

I would have appreciated having someone call ME under those conditions but they didn't want to know. So sad.

Marti