Are you a giver or taker?

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Are you a giver or taker?
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 8:35am

Do you feel as though you are the giver or taker in most relationships? Have you ever tried to change which one you typically are? What were the results?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2003
Mon, 04-11-2011 - 12:05pm
I think I tend to be the giver.... I'm one of those who will give & give and then feel like I'm getting nothing, or very little, in return. I think as a woman, and a mom, I'm more of a nurturer and that's pretty typical for many of us.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2001
Mon, 04-11-2011 - 9:43pm

It's different in every relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2001
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 8:20am
I used to be more of a giver/nurturer but I've learned to also receive (and learned that the other person has to also give - otherwise the relationship isn't balanced or healthy.)
Community Leader
Registered: 12-21-2001
Wed, 04-13-2011 - 8:32pm

I tend to be a spoiled, needy

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2001
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 10:46am

I think I am probably the taker although I do try to force a little giving into the mix. Not sure how successful I am, though...



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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2004
Fri, 05-06-2011 - 11:44pm

Generally, I think I'm a giver in my friendships and relationships. I'm always the one who listens to people's problems, the one who asks questions to show interest in others' lives, and initiating activities.


With my parents it's been different for a very long time. In the past year, things have happened and my appreciation for my parents has deepened, so I've been trying to do a whole lot more for them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2001
Sat, 05-07-2011 - 2:05pm

I know that as my parents aged, our roles kind of changed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2011
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 12:24am

I am a giver. I find it difficult to accept things. Maybe too much pride. Part of my Achilles Heel...IGTBH...

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2001
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:46am

Yeah, I understand the difficulty in accepting things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-29-2011
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 4:17pm

Give and Take is a proverbial situation that only promotes fairness and equality between the bases of the relations of the sexes.