Can you say you've lived a good life?

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Registered: 08-25-2013
Can you say you've lived a good life?
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Wed, 02-12-2014 - 11:20am

I have been thinking over my life and have to wonder if I have made the best of it that I could have. I don't think I have. I am not unhappy but I am not blissfully happy either. Is anyone? I would love to hear from someone who is very happy. How did you get to that point and how long have you been so happy? Is it all about choices you have made or the people in your life?

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Wed, 02-12-2014 - 11:42am

I would sum my current feeling as being content. I am not blissfully happy though I have been at certain points of my life. I have learned when I start feeling unhappy to make some changes. A few years ago I made a bucket list which I know people laugh at but I am really feeling good about myself seeing things getting checked off. I feel empowered. I am currently in my 50's and a college student and I am loving it. I would say that if you are feeling discontent, then do something different in your life. No need to get yourself stuck in a rut.

Brenda

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 02-12-2014 - 1:46pm

NO ONE is "blissfully happy" 100% of the time.  That's fantasy.   I think that happiness comes from making good choices, and learning from the bad ones so you don't do it again.  Good choices bring good people into your life, and make the people you create, into good people also.  One of the first good choices you should make, is to NOT be jealous of others, or sit around moping about lost opportunities, or missed chances.  The past is done.  Focus on what you have.  Make the hard, GOOD choices, to fix what you can, and accept what you cannot.  And spend time with those less fortunate than you.  Do some volunteer work.  It puts everything into perspective.

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Registered: 01-16-2013
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 11:14am

I agree that the notion of being blissfully happy 100% of the time is fantasy. I think TV has helped fuel the "perfect life" scenarios and everyone compares themselves to sitcoms and romances.

I know people who volunteer for hospice and they find it so very rewarding. Very difficult but it has changed their lives to help other people get through the end of theirs. I am going to keep it in mind for when I am no longer working.

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Registered: 07-31-1998
Sat, 03-01-2014 - 1:47am

I wouldn't say I am blissfully happy but I am pretty content. I retired after having open heart surgery four years ago. I am as busy as ever. I am taking better care of myself and I am doing some thing which I really enjoy. Many years ago I decided that I didn't want to come to the end of my life and say "If only I had or I wish I had done XX" so I try to live my life more in the moment. After my heart surgery, which was a huge wake up call for me, I decided that if there were somethings I wanted to do in my life I had best get busy and do them. My artifical heart valve conservatively will last 9 years and optimistically 14 years. Since then I have been traveling, for example I went to the Holy Land last October and I have some more ideas of trips that I would like to make. I have been doing my needlework and I have won some wonderful prizes for my stitching. I also exercise 5-6 days per week and that takes up a lot of my time. While I am not planning on moving, I am trying to downsize within my house and really wouldn't mind if I found an empty closet!

So I am pretty contentwd with my life right now. Thanks for asking this interesting question.

Mary Frances