Expectations

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Expectations
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Mon, 11-08-2010 - 8:47am

“The only thing you can control is your own effort.”
~ Theodora van den Beld

Are your expectations for other people high, normal or low?

Have people often disappointed you with what they delivered/how they reacted? Were your expectations too high or were did these people just not act or reacted or done something that was up to par?

What kind of acheiver are you yourself?

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Registered: 03-20-2001
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 10:19am

Very interesting question Poppy.

I try to make my expectations of others, not comparing their results on

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 11:02am

Poppy, this is a really good question.

I think my expectations for myself are pretty high.

For others they are lower.

Trying very hard not to set them too high for fear of being disappointed.

I am learning to say no and making my wants/needs a priority.

I know in the past I didn't.

I think my family and friends are finally getting used to the new me...;)

In the past I was a door-mat, but I am not one anymore.

It has taken me a long time to realize I was too busy helping others in my life that I neglected me.

Althought they readily accepted my help it was on their terms and at their convenience.

My daughter wanted help to move and ended up not utilizing it.

Hopefully she managed to find someone else.

I was worried about it but decided I need to let her figure it out.

A friend of mine had a truck and offered his help for free basically and she ended up blowing us off, it wasn't convenient for her.

I don't know if he will help her now but that's not my problem.

I like to get things done, like punctuality and if I commit to something I am committed.

Nightangel
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Registered: 01-31-2005
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 12:39pm

Are your expectations for other people high, normal or low? My expectations used to be very high, but I've learned to dial them down to normal as much as possible.

Have people often disappointed you with what they delivered/how they reacted? It depends on the person. I get disappointed in things my kids do, but I understand that they are young, and I try to help them learn from their mistakes. When they were very young, I planned to have very high expectations with their schoolwork, but have learned that those expectations were way too high. I think I'm pretty balanced about it now. I get disappointed with people at work, but it's mainly because they did not act or react or did shoddy work.

What kind of acheiver are you yourself?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-03-2001
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 7:18pm

Are your expectations for other people high, normal or low? at first counter, they are high

Have people often disappointed you with what they delivered/how they reacted? only too often disappointed

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Mon, 11-08-2010 - 10:44pm

My expecations for people in my work is normal to low.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 9:47am
libelulle wrote:

“The only thing you can control is your own effort.”
~ Theodora van den Beld

Are your expectations for other people high, normal or low?

Have people often disappointed you with what they delivered/how they reacted? Were your expectations too high or were did these people just not act or reacted or done something that was up to par?

What kind of acheiver are you yourself?

Ugh, I struggle with this with my kids.

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Registered: 08-16-2001
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 5:29pm
libelulle wrote:

“The only thing you can control is your own effort.”
~ Theodora van den Beld

Are your expectations for other people high, normal or low?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2004
Tue, 11-09-2010 - 10:01pm

I usually don't expect too much, because in most cases I believe that people do the best they can.

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 12:18am

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 12:21am
Congratulations on prioritizing your needs and well-being, Lorie. I know that it's not easy to shift gears as you have. I am glad that your family is getting used to this.

So your daughter has moved to a new apartment? Is she happy there?

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