Goal Setting Help

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Registered: 03-29-2009
Goal Setting Help
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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 8:18pm

I'm looking for ideas on how to start setting some new goals for myself.

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Tue, 11-02-2010 - 10:37pm

Welcome to the board, dmpalmer.

Congratulations on all your accomplishments. Way to go!

Getting out of debt is a very goal to work on, and honestly, I think that a lot of people ought to have this goal!

Aside from the famous Bucket List of things you'd like to see/do/eat/drink before you die, you can have goals in different sorts of categories:

  • Personal goals
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Registered: 03-29-2009
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 7:59am

Thank you so much for the ideas!

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Registered: 11-16-2001
Wed, 11-03-2010 - 11:27am
It's really good that you've discovered this about yourself. It makes it easier to set a course once you know where you want to go, and to break the big goals into smaller ones.

Whilst being in a relationship is wonderful and enriching, my personal opinion is that it's also important for an adult to experience living on one's own without being in a relationship. I think a lot of people are afraid to do this, but it's one way to discover who we are, and to forge a relationship with ourselves. How can we expect to be in a meaningful and strong relationship with another person if we aren't in such a relationship with ourselves? How can we expect that another person would want to be with us and spend time with us if we can't spend time with ourselves? Love and happiness comes from within ourselves, we are each a complete person already. The presence of a significant other in our lives adds happiness and love, which propels us to another place in our lives, but it starts with us. Not with another person, but with us. I'm sorry that your relationship has ended, and that you'd been waiting for him to come back. I know that that's now easy. Please remember that if that person doesn't realize what a great person you are, then he really doesn't deserve to be with a person like you because he'll never be able to fully appreciate you.

Good luck with setting new goals. If you don't mind, please share some of the goals that you've thought of (regardless whether you implement them or not, and just the ones that aren't too personal for you to share.) It might be that that is a goal that someone else is needing to have in their lives but never would have thought of it or couldn't put it into words.
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Registered: 03-29-2009
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 8:30am

I'm still working on my list, because I'm trying to narrow it down, and further define the ones I've chosen.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Fri, 11-12-2010 - 9:49pm

Hi there,
Congratulations on having reached all your goals!
That's an awesome accomplishment.
Now time to make new ones
OK what is it besides getting out of debt you need to do ?
How about some daily goals ?
Or are you looking for long time only ?




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Registered: 11-16-2001
Sat, 11-13-2010 - 9:53am

I really like the cash payment for all of your Christmas gifts. This falls nicely under your get out of debt goal, too. How are you doing with your Christmas list? What about home-made gifts for those who do appreciate these kinds of gifts?

If you prioritize these goals, what is the order of priority and which one(s) can you start working on now?