How to stay happy when you live with a David Downer?

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How to stay happy when you live with a David Downer?
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Mon, 02-28-2011 - 1:00pm

My husband and I are quite opposite personality wise.

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Registered: 01-03-2001

Has he ever tried getting help for his negativity? Could it be that he's depressed and just taking it out on the most convenient thing-you? What happens when you try to talk to him about his negativity?

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Yes, he has.

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You know, I know a lot of people like that. No matter what, their first response is always negative. On the other hand, I know people who's first response (no matter how bad something really is) is positive. Can anyone really change how they view things or do they just simply have to learn how to respond differently. Kwim?

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Yes, I know others like my dh as well as the very positive people too and you may have a point.

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Yes, I find it interesting how negative people always seem to have bad things happen quite often. I have to wonder though, is it because of the negative thinking or does the constant barrage of bad luck cause the negativitiy. Maybe it's because many negative people are very vocal and complain a lot so we just hear of their bad luck more than others. I just don't know.

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