How to Make Choices for Best Life

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
How to Make Choices for Best Life
Mon, 10-22-2012 - 5:59pm

Hello Everyone; Me again

I still dont know how to make changes or even know where to start for a best life..

I know that I want to move somewhere else but should it be the city or the country or another state. Do I stay where I am and hope for the best.

As i age I feel life of course getting shorter and shorter and want to make sure I am living best life but dont know how to find it.

went to a life coach once years ago but it didnt really do much good for me..but now at 58 what the heck could I possible do in life ??

any thoughts?

thank you

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Mon, 11-19-2012 - 10:57am

Hi Free!

Just saw this and thought yes you can do this!

My ds and I moved, to another city.

I love it!

I am not able to work and never imagined I would do this but did...:)

Love our new home and I am making new friends.

It's never tooo late.

Just turned fifty-four, I am single to.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 10-27-2012 - 1:44pm

thank you both.. Yes; I have been recently working on creating more energy in me and doing eft and accupressure which seems to be working..

I like that idea of make a list and so far I would think the best course of action for me at this time if I can is to move to somewhere in middle of city and country.. I do love being out doors and those types of activities but I also like city things so I can be right in middle of it. does that make sense.. So now I can focus on moving where there is middle ground so to speak (lol)

I am single also with no job and lots of freedom to move about ...

thanks for the ideas.. appreciate it..

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2001
Fri, 10-26-2012 - 10:26pm

Cheryl has offered some great ideas in her response.  I'd like to also offer that just because you are 58, it doesn't mean that you are too old to make changes in your life.

One of my dearest friend's mom is in her mid-80's and a very active woman,  Her mom is about 40 years older than myself, and my friend and I have a hard time scheduling time together because her mom keeps her busy.  They run around together, work on projects, etc. 

Age doesn't define us, our attitudes do.

I know this because lately I have been having physical issues with my body.  When I get up in the morning and am having a bad day, I jokingly say that getting old is heck.  But if I take care of the pain early, do my best to be optimistic, I discover that I feel better much sooner. 

Go through Cheryl's ideas and try some positive thinking.

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-30-2000
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 5:23pm

I would suggest that you make a pro's and con's list of moving. OR make a list of pros and cons of country or city. See which looks 'best'. The other thought I have is, in your day dreams, where are you at? Without knowing you, and your actual situaltion, location, etc, it is hard to give you much more specific advice. Do you have a friend or family member that lives in one of the locations you are thinking about so that you can visit and see how the landscape is for jobs, etc?