Your year...

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Your year...
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Wed, 12-08-2010 - 2:00pm

If you could sum up this past year, what would you say about it? Was it a good or bad year for you? Was there something about this year that really affected your life? In your opinion, what was the one big news story or event (even if it was just something personal that affected only you) of the year?

Karla
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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2003
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 2:57pm
Ah the joys of menopause. They are so many!!

                                          

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 2:56pm
Thanks for the advice. My Ds is on medication and when he takes it he does really well. He lost his job in August of last year. Then moved to the midwest to be closer to his son and hopefully to get a job. The job didn't happen for several months and he had no money to get his prescription. He didn't tell us he needed help. If he had we would have made sure he had his meds. He has been in treatment for over 5 years. Being bi-polar takes depression to a whole new ball game.

                                          

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 11:28pm
Catfish whiskers! I'm right there will you! When did I become a fish? LOL
Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 11:27pm

Hi Mary,

I'm sorry your son is so depressed he has attempted to take his life 2x. I have suffered from clinical depression and know exactly how hopeless you can feel when under the "black cloud" of depression. It took a lot of courage for me to admit I needed help.

There is no "one-size, fits all" treatment for depression. I had the good luck to have a doctor who helped me get started on the right medication, in the right dose, and at the right time. Getting the chemical imbalance addressed is just one piece of the puzzle; therapy is a huge part of managing depression and getting on with your life.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2003
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 7:36pm
Thanks Karla my son is bipolar. This is the second time he has attempted suicide. Help is the best thing. Get them to see a Dr who can help them find away to work through the depression. He is good now so we take the good when we can.
Congrats on the dgd. I have all boy grandchildren.
HUGS Mary

                                          

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 7:23pm

Hi and welcome! I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. I have two sisters and I know how special and dear they are to me. One of my sisters has had health issues for years and it scares me. I couldn't even begin to imagine what you've been through. {{Hugs}}

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 7:15pm

Aww Mary, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Thankfully he survived. I can't evin begin to imagine what you all went through. Was he struggling with depression? One of my children is prone to depression and it really bothers me because I'm not really sure what to do to help other than to be available to listen.

As far as us, One of my sons joined the military and when he went off for training that was quite the change for us. My other son announced he was going to be a daddy so our first grandchild (a girl) is going to be born in the spring of next year. Between those, getting my mother moved closer so we could make sure she had family to help out (believe me when I say she moved closer-she's right across the street now), and some very unpleasant situations both of my sisters have been going through it's been well, quite different than our typical existense.

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-30-2000
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 5:28pm

Hi and welcome to the board!

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 4:01pm

What a thoughtful and profound response to the OP's question(s). . . welcome to the board!

Amelia

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:08pm

Hi,

This is my first visit to your board. I was looking for something like it and here you are asking about how our year went!

By way of introduction, I am 50, happily married, a proud co-owner of 3 beautiful cats, and work full-time as a banker. My husband and I live in a lovely, restored historic home in a small town in Michigan. I garden throughout the warm months and am a faithful church goer. We are active in several ministries.

If you could sum up this past year, what would you say about it? My year has been one of milestones, deep loss, and change.

The milestone was turning 50 in January. No fanfare. I don’t feel 50! I feel 40! I can’t believe I’ve been AARP’d!

My deep loss was the death of my only sister at age 44 due to breast cancer. I am still grappling with her absence in my life and the ripple-effect of grief that survives beyond the funeral and those first few days.

Change came in the form of a new job with decent hours and a chance to ‘have a life’ outside of work. Going 9 to 5, M-F created new opportunities for other change by allowing non-work commitments and causes. I am still amazed at this.

Was it a good or bad year for you?

If I said it was a bad year there isn’t a soul who’d disagree with me given my deep loss. I could so easily say 2010 sucked! But, I have to take a page from my sister’s “book of life” and how she approached her cancer, and say it was a good year. You see, my sister never allowed her cancer to define her. Not even when she was told it was terminal. She lived and lived and lived her life despite the imminent threat of death. I’d like to think I have lived and lived this year despite her death, celebrating a milestone birthday, and making another transition in my professional life.

Was there something about this year that really affected your life?

I could say “see above” but it would be trite. I have always been aware of my mortality as there have been so many deaths in the news, in the family, and around us as a church community in the past year. However, my sister’s death has caused me to reexamine my priorities and what I really want from my life. I’ve had the privilege of being present at two family members last moments. Those times showed me that while death is imminent for all of us that it’s not who we knew in our lives that made us special. It’s who knew us. It’s not presidents, kings, or celebrities who will sit by our bedside in our last moments on earth; it is those who love us.

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