Aging Process

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Aging Process
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 9:07am

Hello everyone;

Well this month I will be 59 years old and there are days where this aging process feels like it takes a toll on me.. Some days I can feel good and other days not so good.. No matter what I do or eat or drink or take in form of a vitamin I cant do the things I used to do and its frustrating..

Right now I do not work and I have no idea how people up in age go to work and function everyday and feel okay about it..

Then I hear people my age who are doing zumba and all kinds of things and think are they lying?? I can manage some walking and chores and errands and then I might be exhausted that day.... I think social security should be given much earlier or some sort of compensation because just living day to day can be tiring and doing the normal routine of life and then throw in work, socializing, exercise, errands and regular life and how can one do it.. To me its impossible unless I am a weak person and everyone else has more strength.. Have no idea and i am fairly healthy ..

Throw in a bunch of other stressors like living with family and limited income and it works havoc with the psyche.. I always thought at this age I would be secure and living comfortable and not worry but its just the opposite..

Any Thoughts????

Community Leader
Registered: 07-31-1998
Tue, 04-02-2013 - 1:24am

Hi there!

Aging isn't for sissies! At the same time it isn't realistic to expect that you can do the things you did when you were 40. But there are things that you can do at 59 which you didn't have the good sense to do when you were 40. I don't know about you, but I don't want to make the same mistakes at 69 that I made at 40. And actually my health is better than it was at 40 and I am taking better care of myself than I did a 40.

When was the last time you have a complete physical done? There may be physical reasons why you feel as you do and there may be psychological reasons. Depression is common in old folks and your doctor can help you with this. There is no reason for you to suffer needlessly.

There are some things that you can do to help yourself. Try eating three meals a day and eating healthy. If you are over weight start walking now that the weather is getting better. Exercise has a wonderful way of boosting your mood and helping you feel better. Figure out the things that you really want to do with your life and write them down. Now is the time to start doing those things.

I had major open heart surgery 3 years ago. I am now in much better shape than I was. But I was so ill after my almost emergency surgery that I had to retire. I knew that if I stated in my house 24 hours per day that I would be squirrely in short order. So I began to think about those things that I had always wanted to do but hadn't had time: I took a Bible study class, I started taking needlework classes on the internet, I finished the rejuvenation of my garden, etc. Plus I exercise at least 5 days per week. Now you don't have to do any of these things but these things gave my life meaning and I have really enjoyed doing them. I have made a point of going out to lunch once per week and seeing people that I don't see everyday anymore because I am not working. It is true that I don't have as much energy as I did before I was so ill but I can't dwell on that!

I hope you will pull up a chair and join our conversation. This is a nice group of people around here and you will find friends here.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 04-02-2013 - 9:08am

Thank you for that great post..and hoping you are feeling great considering your surgery.. That couldnt be fun or easy...

Yes I try and eat as healthy as I can but there are days I fall short .. I have had a huge physical last  year and many follow ups for high blood pressure and now on meds that I hate taking but it is what it is.. I am  not overweight as I have lost 25 pounds last year but its tough keeping it off..

I could as you say be suffering from some low grade depression so yes with walking and some exercise and warmer weather and sun coming out that can be worked on...

Yes those hobbies you have sound interesting.. and they make alot of sense..

A friend of mine called me last night and he mentioned line dancing one night so I am going to meet him at a place and do line dancing..

I also found a friend who teaches zumba near me so going to try one of her classes.. Yep its about trying and doing different things..You are right about that one...

thank You for the welcome..

Community Leader
Registered: 07-31-1998
Fri, 04-05-2013 - 10:57pm

Wonderful. I hope you have a lot of fun with these two activites. Please let us know how you are doing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 04-08-2013 - 12:09pm

Hi there;

well I did the line dancing and it was fun so I am going to try and do that twice a month. It was only 5.00 to get into the place and there were lots of people dancing and It was all good..

Not sure about the zumba yet as it might be too hard on me joints..but I did try it a few times years ago and liked it .. I guess it doesnt hurt to try a bunch of stuff..

Looking for a bible study group but so far havent seen anything close enough to me but will keep looking. I would love to go back and do that again..

Now thinking of going back and taking some adult evening golf lessons.. It doesnt appear too much and its once a week .. I have tried this before and it was good so maybe thinking of trying it again ....

thank you for the welcome and the posts...

take care