Letting your hair go grey

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Letting your hair go grey
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 11:41am

At what point in your life did you decide that you weren't going to battle the grey hair anymore and just let it go natural? Did you ease into it or go "cold turkey"?


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Registered: 07-31-1998
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 11:31pm

LOL!!!!Smile I can't answer your question because I am going every six weeks to maintain the blond head of hair!! I was told that there are more elderly blonds than were ever born!! I have a twin sister who doesn't color her hair and so I know I would be white as the driven snow! But at least you can tell us a part!



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Registered: 09-10-2012
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 8:20am

I just simply stopped coloring. I"m not completely grey yet but it's getting there. Now my grey started at the back so I didn't have to look at myself with grey roots for quite a while. It was like I had time to ease into it. I probably would look better with some color but the maintenance is just too cumbersome to keep up with.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 06-06-2013 - 9:47pm

I have never colored my hair so far, but I have considered that I might do it when I have more grey hair if I don't like the way it looks. I don't really want to start down that path but vanity may win over laziness.

So far there's not too terribly much grey--that I can see, anyway---so I'm having lots of time to get used to it. My natural color has a lot of different colors in it, mainly browns but blond and red highlights, so its sort of just another highlight. It looks kind of silvery and so far I don't really dislike it. My mother was grey only at her temples when she died at 77 so I'm hoping that I inherited her lack of grey. She also had alopecia and I really hope I do not inherit that!!

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Registered: 11-15-2001
Thu, 06-13-2013 - 6:52pm

I have colored my hair since the first time I found a couple of gray hairs. I don't think it has anything to do with vanity, I've just always been a redhead and I loved the natural color of my hair.

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Registered: 11-15-2001
Thu, 06-13-2013 - 6:56pm

Though I color my hair, I do have a confession to make... I'm very lazy about recoloring when its due. I detest having to color my hair, but at the same time, I loved the natural redhead I was, so I mainly only color my hair when I can't stand seeing those gray hairs popping up. Laughing

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Registered: 07-05-2002
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 5:31pm

I only need to color at the temples so far. Did you know you can buy a mens mustache touch-up dye to do your hair with? I recently got a hair piece and was told this by a nice lady that worked there. I am going to give it a try. Its really hot here right now so I am having a hard time getting used to my new hair. But I do like it. I have very thin hair on top.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Sun, 07-07-2013 - 12:54am

Hi Ladies :)

First time posting on this Board.  I've been coloring my hair since the sixth grade because that is when grey hairs started showing up.  I'm 60 now, and I wish I could get back all the money spent on maintanence.  All my life, it's been all about my hair.  I once read where a woman said "I think the upside of death is finally not having to deal with my hair anymore"...gave me a chuckle. 

And to top it off, it's not just grey hair for me that I could consider letting go to it's natural state, it's frizzy tight kinky hair that I've spent my entire life trying to tame.  I have a picture of my birth mother.  She has the hair.  I think if I had ever had a chance to meet her (she died before I had a chance to), my first words to her would be "Thanks for the hair, Ma".

The first time I ever saw it straight was when my adoptive mom took me on one of her weekly hairdressing trips.  I think I was around 10...and they put me in the chair, my hair in rollers and under the hairdryer...like one of the grown-ups.  Hair dried, rollers removed, and OMG...smoooth and shiny!  I could not stop looking at myself in the mirror.  I was so excited and went around to all the neighbors (and I'm sure my mother tried to stop me because it was raining out), but I'm sure I put up a fuss. She put on a rain bonnet and sent me off.  I probably got show off to maybe 5 or 6 neighbors because my hair reverted back to it's natural state from the rain and dampness.

As a teenager I used Curl Free and in my 50's a new Keratin product came out, and that was really nice...except they learned it had formaldehyde in it...not so nice.  And, it cost a fortune, but for a while I had a fortune after selling my house.  So, while I lived in Massachusetts my hair was always beautiful...no one would ever believe the true nature of my hair.  My hair, however, did put me in the poorhouse between the dyeing and the straightening.

So what do I go and do? I leave my boyfriend of 10 years and move to Florida!  Do you have any idea what that is doing to my hair?  The keratin is no longer in it, blow drying doesn't keep it straight, a straight iron works, but how bad is that over time.  I haven't found a hairdresser in the area yet and so I've been coloring the roots myself.  I'm not so good at getting the back and it reminds me of a saying my adoptive father use to say. "You look nice coming, but have you seen yourself going?"  I've tried to let the grey out in the past, and I just looked old.  How come men looked distinguished?

I'm so fed up with trying to maintain my hair down here, I no longer fear death.

Btw, my Patient Direct..."DO NOT WET HAIR".

Earlier this even, I was thinking of actually shaving my head.  I'm going to think on this a spell.


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