Okay, boys and girls.....

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Registered: 11-15-2001
Okay, boys and girls.....
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Tue, 04-01-2014 - 9:04pm

Here's a question for you... What have you had the hardest time with in dealing with becoming older? It can be one thing or several. Or none at all.

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Registered: 11-15-2001
Tue, 04-01-2014 - 9:08pm

Age is not really kind to most of us. Men do seem to age better than women, imo. The most difficult for me to accept is how my face has changed. I used to be rather pretty, but I no longer am. I'm looking OLD. However, I guess we should feel pretty on the inside. I know I already do. Give me your thoughts, one and all.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 04-02-2014 - 7:03pm

So far, the most annoying is the changes to my skin, the loss of elasticity. Not just the "bat wings" on my upper arms, but even on my legs I can see the skin is looser and crepey. I started noticing things getting saggier right after menopause which was about 10 years ago, and these days its accelerating like a train on a downhill!

There are other little things like less stamina and less mental accuity but so far they are still minor. I'm not even that old, turning 62 next week, so probably a lot of it hasn't really hit me yet! My dh is  9 months younger and he is in much better shape physically than me because he still works out hard, but even he is noticing that he's slower than before.

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Registered: 07-31-1998
Fri, 04-04-2014 - 2:48am

Geri,

I think we go through stages when we look better than at other times. I look better right now because my color is good and I have lost more weight. One of the most important things we can do is get enough sleep, and that is hard after menopause, eat well and get exercise. It does take longer for our skin to tighten up but it will eventually. What I can't figure out is why can't I lose the tire around my waist!! That used to be the first place I lost inches but not anymore. Of course I know the answer but it is still frustrating!!

Otherwise how are you doing? I hope things are going better for you and your mom.

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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 11:58pm

I, too, have the "bat wings" and its embarassing. I could wear my coat 365, but then people would just think I'm weird. Wink Maybe they already do think I'm strange... I have the "turkey neck" and crepe paper arms. I had to ask my doctor what all those tiny red lines are that suddenly appeared on the top of my foot. Broken vessels that usually come with age. I also have the "spare tire" around my waist and my "baby tummy" is beginnig to look like the spare tire. Woe is me! When I was young, I never had a weight problem. Now I can just look at a candy bar and gain 10 lbs. I think what's true with most of us is that our brains tell us we can do something that we used to do, but the body goes, "No way!" It sucks getting older.

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Sat, 04-05-2014 - 12:08am

Thanks for your reply and for asking about my mother and myself. Mom is becoming more child-like. She still remembers who everyone is, but it may take a minute before it registers. Her last housekeeper left because Mom was so mean to her and she simply could not take it anymore. And that's the reason the 1st housekeeper quit. I don't blame either of them for leaving. But now its up to me to staighten her house. She eats a lot of instant foods that are still easy for her to fix. (She still remembers how to use the microwave.) I fix her dinner evey evening. Mom doesn't remember how to use the oven or the vacuum cleaner, always telling others that they don't work. Perhaps the most difficult for me to handle is how she tells anyone who will listen that I'm mean to her, I hate her, I won't even take her to the doctor, etc. Especially to people who do not understand Alzheimers. I see the rheumatologist the 15th, so I'm anxious to see what he has to say about my RA and Lupus.  I'll "talk" with you again soon.

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Mon, 04-21-2014 - 2:00pm

Hi Geri it's Lorie...:)...
My dad has Dementia it's been hard because he is even further away now...He is nearer to my younger sister and now living in a Retirement home...lost his leg and now has a prosthesis...
I have RA and OA and possibly PsA.
I actually don't mind getting older but since my Heart Attack have realized I am not invincible.
My Beloved Mom died at my age from one.
Almost lost my dd...we lost my sil who was like a Son to me. It will be a year in May...
With the RA I feel different about myself but I know it sometimes is the Depression.

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