Time to Vent Again !!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Time to Vent Again !!
Fri, 01-03-2014 - 10:53am

Hello folks

Not much traffic here anymore and I find that sad ....Anyway; Does anyone feel they are struggling at these ages? I will be 60 in April and not sure which way to look at the world anymore if that makes sense... I see women with their husbands who support them and the wives work part time for extra money and complain about life.. I went to NYE party and the people didnt have a clue how we divorced single women struggle daily... I was trying to explain things to them but they didnt care.. Its tough finding people who care these days.. I tried to sign up for health insurance and now I am scared they will garnish my bank account because I have some savings if I need the medical care...so I will have to drop it...

Its getting tiring in the U.S. trying to be middle class.. You either have to be rich or poor and I aint rich so now what??  I see people in grocery store who struggle with buying food and its not supposed to be like that here in the U.S..........There are so many empty houses and apartments yet there are homeless people with nowhere to go...the rents are insane where I live so people go to shelters.. None of this makes sense to me.......

What are the answers?


Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 01-07-2014 - 6:16am

Hi Free,

it's so different here now and I have been here a very long time...:(...

I am CL of Heart Health and hardly any there...it gets lonely...;)...lol...

The new roll-out kind of fizzked...

I still have problems logging in or posting,,,the other day a post of mine seemed not post then posted three times!

I am struggling financially and I know others to.

Single divorced myself fifty-five.

Other than the rent it's food I worry about...

I live in Canada but I believe things are bad for lots of ppl.

Finally in Toronto they brought homeless ppl in out of the cold...

I live in a new community that had more resources available to me and my ds who lives with me...

If it wasn't for Community help it would be pretty tough for many ppl.

A lot of ppl rely n the Salvation Army and other churches and organizations.

Food-Banks for many are a Life=Line.

As of Jan 1 my rent went up so it's coming up with that extra money or do we move?

It was good seeing a familar face!


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2010
Sun, 01-12-2014 - 9:48am

Everyone I know is either struggling or having to cut back considerably. My husband and I are middle class and our standard of living is much different than it has been in the last decade despite the fact we make more money. We used to take a nice vacation twice a year and now we just cannot find the money to do that. We used to eat out a couple of times a week and now it's just a few times a month. He has been driving the same car for 11 years and mine is 6 years old. I know there are people way worse off but my point is, if people like us are crunched, how on earth is everyone else making it and where are we headed.

They say that the economy is improving. I think that is just propoganda to feed consumer confidence so people will stop saving and start spending.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-31-1998
Mon, 02-10-2014 - 8:24pm
My husband started on his pension the middle of December and it has been fun trying to get everything straightened out. Almost 2 months later, for some unknown reason, our application for drug coverage through his pension hasn't been submitted. It is literally only supposed to take 3 days to get approval. No wonder I had to pay for my diabetic test strips myself! And that cost me $100! I had stocked up as best I could before his employer coverage ended because some of my meds costs more that $300 per month. Soon I am going to have to order refills so I want this fixed yesterday. Ultimately it will be okay but why in the age of computers this is taking sooooo long is beyond me. The congress needs to look at establishing the full employment act again. It worked well to help small business hire people. When people can get work then the economy works well. Additionally people need to get in the habit of saving money for a rainy day because it comes to all of us. Its okay to vent. At least that makes it a little interesting around here! Otherwise it seems like a ghost town. I too have been around here for a long time and have never seen it be this slow.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 02-11-2014 - 9:12am

Hi and thanks everyone for the replies.

Its comforting when someone replies and feeling the same.. Its nice to know we are not alone..

Maybe its time for me to find a few support groups with my peers. It seems to be the only thing that works these days and finding others in similar situations and not complaining.

I am trying to cut down on food intake and just buying what I need and using that up first is saving me money and also buying one or two bunches of veggies and not using alot of variety as i was doing.. sometimes things are on sale so I buy that and eat that first and then wait for the next thing to be on sale.. and then eat that first.. and etc.etc..

I dont go out so much but when I do I pick the things that are free or very affordable and dont go overboard in my spending.. dont buy much so that helps.....and they had a sale on shoes at Marshalls so I bought a pair for only 20.00...............

only thing I want to move and get my own place and dont know which way to go..... Senior places are more money around here and over 55 is very pricey.. that leaves a landlord house or another share but I am sharing now with my sister and need to get my own place. Only thing i havent lived alone is so long and am going to feel very lonely so this is my new dilemma LOL

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sat, 02-22-2014 - 6:58am


Hi Free!

Last year my ds and I moved to a new city.

Our rent just went up in Jan.

It's tough but struggling through it.

I believe we all can help one another.

Love the boards for the support I get.


Community Leader
Registered: 07-31-1998
Mon, 02-24-2014 - 11:35pm

I finally got the notice that Medicare approved our drug coverage and now they want to fine us because we were late in applying. Over my dead body is that going to happen!!

Senioe housing can be expensive but sometimes there are government hosuing available and for seniors it is usually nicer than for low income families. Check that out. They often offer it on a sliding scale. Don't worry about living by yourself. You will be amazed at how quickly you will get used to it and the peace and quiet is really worth it. Also it will encourage you to get out and find out what is available in your community and to meet people who live there. Good luck!

Mary Frances