Update on Mom - may trigger
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|Sun, 08-11-2013 - 8:00pm|
Okay, for those who don't know the story, my mother has Alzheimer's. Along with her, her son was on her savings account and one day - zip - the money was gone. You guessed it. She had enough to live comfortably and she didn't have life insurance because that's what the savings was supposed to cover when she passed on. She had also given up her home to my brother. My mom was living in filth, with cats and dogs peeing and pooping on the carpet and feral cats doing the same on her huge deck. She threw garbage out on the deck instead of putting it in the trash can and her refrigerator stunk so bad from rotten food. The smell was so rancid that we had to wear face masks. She refused to take showers and claimed that her stove, toaster and oven didn't work. So, she rarely cooked anything to eat. We moved her up near us a year ago (23 miles from where she was previously) and now hubby amd myself have the full duty of taking care of her. The best solution would have been to move her in wwith us, but there is no room. We looked into assisted living, but because she has no assets, they won't accept her. I cook for her and do her laundry and check on her throughout the day.
In just this past year, we can really see the changes from bad to worse. She still recognizes names and faces and that's about it. Her brain no longer tells her to look for something. She has no idea what's in her kitchen cabinets or in her dresser drawers. She tells the same story 4 or 5 times during a conversation and repeats it on a daily basis. For example, she has told me about a dream she had had one night. She tells me the same dream over and over again for weeks on end. She can't remember something after 30 minutes. If she goes somewhere one day, by that evening she can no longer remember it. She complains about everything and has temper tantrums. One day she told us that she was out of toilet paper so I took some over to her. When I went into the bathroom, there was a new package on the toilet tank. When I asked her about it, she replied, "Well, how did that get there?" Then she confessed that she had been using newspaper to wipe with. Another time, I went into her bathroom and I saw Depends hanging on the side of the tub. They looked dirty. She said to me that she had been washing them out and re-using them because it saved money. I'm so tired, both physically and mentally. Not to mention the stress and emotional upset.
Mom had a mild stroke last October, but she came through it at 100%. For which we are very grateful, of course. She was placed in the hospital one other time right after we moved her up here. Apparently there were toxins in her blood and it was making her sick. The doctor told us that it could very well be due to the filthy conditions that she had been living in.
My mother was always an elegant woman. Hair permed, lipstick on, nice clothes, a string of pearls aroung her neck. She was very intelligent and well-to-do. So, seeing her as she is now is so heartbreaking. By the way, my mom is 96 years old.
I'll post more later.... Thanks for reading. And if there are any typos in this post, I don't care. *smile*