Automobile anxiety

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Registered: 05-09-2010
Automobile anxiety
Sun, 06-30-2013 - 9:12am

I know this is going to sound crazy but I am starting to obsess over breaking down in my car anytime I have to drive anywhere. There is nothing wrong with my vehicle but it is older and any time I have to go out of town or drive for even a few miles, I am anxious over it for days. I have  developed a plan in case something breaks down on me and my husband is now angry and says I need to "talk to someone". I've gotten to the point where I won't hardly go anywhere by myself anymore just in case. I can't afford a new car so that isn't an option. I don't know why I am so worried about this. Any ideas on how I can stop this?

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 06-30-2013 - 6:45pm

I use to get anxious in a car but I found out it wasn't the car but the driver and it wasn't me...;)...

Have you ever had a problem and were alone?

Even if you haven't it's not unreasonable for you to be feeling this way...


I was in a couple accidents break-downs with my now ex...

I have no issues driving or been driven by someone else...

Is your husband upset about this because you are depending more on him?

Baby Steps are what helped me overcome my fear.

Take small trips and eventually you might feel more safer gradually taking longer sounds like you have a plan which is good...awesome in fact...

Bring your phone fully charged with you be prepared have water on hand a flash-light blanket and a first-aid kit.

Always let someone know where you are going call when you arrive...

I think you just need some time...but if you are worried or concerned talk to someone for your benefit, and peace of mind.



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Registered: 01-05-1999
Wed, 08-07-2013 - 8:55am

I have a similar issue.  My panic attacks (PAs) started when I was driving.  I couldn't explain it, I just got scared.  I did see a therapist but in between the visits and until any therapy kicked in I would sing, hum and whistle while driving.  It would help take my mind off of the nervousness and force me to breathe.  My car is 13 years old so the breakdown thing is now sort of on my mind but back when my attacks started it wasn't the fear of breaking down, just a sudden grip of fear.

Try to go see a therapist, it might help.  Not to be nosy but how old are you?  My PAs started when I was starting menopause.  I had no idea this was a side effect (thanks Big M!). 


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Registered: 05-02-2001
Thu, 08-15-2013 - 1:07pm

I'm 62 and this started to get really bad about 10 years ago after my husband divored me. It did start shortly after menopause.