Chronic anxiety

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Chronic anxiety
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Sun, 09-15-2013 - 11:46am

Hi. I'm just wondering if any one else suffers from day to day anxiety and what causes it to get worse? My son and I moved 2 years ago from Orange County and my anxiety has gotten worse. I'm scared to find a new job BECAUSE of it:( Any suggestions, PLEASE?

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Registered: 01-16-2013
Sun, 10-06-2013 - 1:21pm

I am just curious as to exactly why you are afraid to get a job. Is it because you don't know the area?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2003
Wed, 10-16-2013 - 8:43am

Hi,

I don't know if I can help- but I came here for the same reason. I feel anxious all the time but I feel like people don't really get it. Having order helps- I feel better when my house and car are clean, I don't have a mile long to do list, and my kids are behaving. But then I'll have an off day, get a head ache or my legs will ache and I will turn into a crazy person. So- What do you do know that helps?

-Stephanie

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 10-27-2013 - 11:43am

~hugs~

My ds does and so does my dd.

I also have suffered to but seems to have gotten better.

We moved a year ago to to a new city but I really love it here.

My dd and ds like things not to change too much.

My dd is doing much better than her brother, she is living on her own and is three years older.

He has come a long way but it is still pretty tough.

The move was the best thing for us.

Sometimes "Anxiety" can be so de-habilitating that you cannot work.

For some medication or cbt helps either alone or a combination of both.

Baby Steps.

Maybe for some actually going outside can be an issue, large crowds and for some that could me two or more people.

This is very real to us.

It takes time and patience and a really good support system.

My heart goes out to you because I know that it is not easy.

<3

~hugs~

Lorie

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 10-29-2013 - 2:08pm

nightangel67 wrote:

Sometimes "Anxiety" can be so de-habilitating that you cannot work.

Maybe for some actually going outside can be an issue, large crowds and for some that could me two or more people.

I totally agree. I have bad anxiety with going to new places and being around new people. Perhaps that's what the issue is? Not necessarily working — but the environment?

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Registered: 07-21-2001
Tue, 11-12-2013 - 9:16pm
Hi everyone, I'm glad to have found these boards. I suffer from anxiety too. Lately I worry about what everyone thinks about me. It's really hard because I'm constanty thinking and fretting that people are thinking badly about me. Like sometimes very early in the morning I will let me dog outside by himself. I thought he just wandered around this empty field across the street from our house. When he poops in that empty lot he always finds some bramble bush off to the side and I can practically never retrieve, so I figured it was sokay. Turns out he went into some of my neighbors yards and one of them told me angrily this morning. I've been kind of obsessing about everyone in the neighborhood hating me now. I wrote an apology card to my neighbor and I won't let him out anymore alone, but I keep thinking over and over what a terrible person I am. I do this about so many small things that I do, or don't do. I tell my kids not to worry about what other people think, just to follow their morals and it's between them, their morality and God, and we can't control what other people think so don't worry about it. I tell them this but can't seem to follow my own advice. I've been on and off meds but they never seem to help that much so I finally just went off them. I love no side effects and i feel the same level of anxiety as I did on them. I would like to try CBT but don't know if there is a good therapist on my insurance and I feel kind of overwhelmed to try and find someone. Anyway feels good to vent. I appreciate reading other people's posts and knowing I'm not alone.
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Registered: 09-23-2010
Wed, 11-13-2013 - 3:59pm

Hi, welcome! 

I'm sure the neighbor was angry, but it was an honest misunderstanding. Please don't dwell. I'm not a confrontational person by any means and have had to be with one neighbor. It's nerve wracking for those of us who feel judgement. 

The apology note is nice and not letting the dog out by himself is a great step. After you send the note, just breath. :) You didn't purposely let the dog into their yard. Honest mistake. Point made, point taken. :)

I won't say that they aren't talking about you, but even if they are the note will go a long way. Seriously. And I'm sure if you were confronted like that and then continued to let the dog out and do what ever it wanted to do THAT'S when they are more likely to talk/hate you. But that honestly doesn't sound at all like that's the case.

With all that said, I do understand the all eyes on me feeling. {{{hugs}}}