Who "gets" you?

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Who "gets" you?
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Wed, 03-27-2013 - 11:32am

Who is the person in your life who "gets" where you're coming from? Who understands that you can't just "not think about it"? 

I really don't have too many people. Maybe two or three that understand. My mom understands my anxiety but then I make her anxious, so vicious cycle. Though my sisters are anxious they don't have the same worries. Sometimes it's tough to find someone to confide in.  

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Wed, 03-27-2013 - 11:34am

Who gets me? Not many people at all.

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Registered: 12-27-1999
Wed, 03-27-2013 - 3:10pm

My son totally gets me.  No explanations needed and sometimes no words are needed.  Dh is caring but he doesn't fully understand it.  He loves me and supports me but he doesn't really get it.  We live with my mother and she doesn't get it at all.  Thinks it is all hooey.  Need I say more?  

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 6:50pm

My dd and my ds...<3

Nightangel
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Registered: 10-22-2001
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 6:52pm

~hugs~

I am so sorry Karen that your mother doesn't get it and thinks it's ALL hooey, that must be very hard...:(...

My kids are both great!

My ds gets it and so does dd.

We ALL suffer from it.

Nightangel
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Thu, 04-04-2013 - 12:28pm

No worries.  I can handle my mother.  I often roll my eyes when she is ranting.  I don't take it personally either. 

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Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 04-09-2013 - 8:43am

jyladvik wrote:

Who gets me? Not many people at all.

Hi, I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Between Easter and being sick (and — I'm sick again, great!) I haven't been on much.

It's hard when no one understands or can empathsize. I always feel like those who don't get it make light of my issues. "Oh that's silly, why are you even thinking about that?" Duh, if I knew or could control it, I wouldn't be!

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Tue, 04-09-2013 - 8:56am

nawleansdarlin wrote:

My son totally gets me. No explanations needed and sometimes no words are needed. Dh is caring but he doesn't fully understand it. He loves me and supports me but he doesn't really get it. We live with my mother and she doesn't get it at all. Thinks it is all hooey. Need I say more?

Ugh Karen. First, I'm glad you have your son who understands. My dh is similar. He knows I worry or I panic, etc., but doesn't get it. He's a "worry about it when it happens" / "who cares what anything thinks" person. My brain doesn't work that way.

For your mom, that's sad. Though, my inlaws don't understand my son and that breaks my heart. They can be mean to him (he's special needs, developmental issues with asperger tendencies). I hope one day he'll be able to ignore/roll his eyes too. :)

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Tue, 04-09-2013 - 8:57am

nightangel67 wrote:

My dd and my ds...<3

It's great to see that kids are understanding. I hope that my kids will when they are older. :)

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 1:53pm

ubergeek wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">nawleansdarlin</em> wrote Though, my inlaws don't understand my son and that breaks my heart. They can be mean to him (he's special needs, developmental issues with asperger tendencies). I hope one day he'll be able to ignore/roll his eyes too. :)</span></p>

I assure you one day he will be able to do just that.  I speak from experience.

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 06-04-2013 - 9:47am

Sorry, I just saw this...have been having trouble signing in but I am here...;)...lol...:)...

My kids are great because they to also have their own stuff and really do get it and are "Empathetic"...:)...

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