Boyfriend has abusive past

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Registered: 01-23-2013
Boyfriend has abusive past
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Mon, 05-13-2013 - 1:32pm

I have been dating this guy for a few months that is just as sweet and kind as he can be. Recently some friends told me that he has been in trouble in the past for abusing a former girlfriend so I confronted him about it. He says that he did get violent with an old girlfriend and that as a result he discovered that he was bipolar and now he is getting treated for it and it will never happen again. I do notice that he is very moody but never anything violent or abusive. I really like this guy so I am wondering if anyone has any experience with bipolar people and violence and if this is something I should be worried about.  

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Registered: 05-09-2010
Sun, 05-19-2013 - 11:57am

Please take some time to learn about domestic abuse http://www.domesticviolence.org/what-is-abuse/ and be aware of signs. That is not to say that you should be scared of your boyfriend, just be aware that since he does have abuse in his past, he may be at risk for doing it again. It is good he is getting help and hopefully he understands his behavior and is working on correcting it rather than blaming someone/something else.

 

Nancy
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Registered: 01-23-2013
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 2:07pm

I think from my own personal experience I would worry if I were you. Bipolar Disorder is a nightmare to deal with as it's not a smooth ride and never will be. He has a history of violence so keep in mind that history often repeats itself.