Nervous Breakdown??

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Nervous Breakdown??
Sun, 08-10-2014 - 12:09am

I have been out of town for 3 months caring for an ill family member.  My husband and daughter came to visit me for just a few days in mid-July.  I hired a sitter to stay with my aunt and tried to spend some time with my husband and daughter.  My daughter and I have a strained relationship at times - we just seem to push each others buttons.  My husband and I have a very poor marriage.  I took them to an activity that they both said they wanted to go to but when we got there my daughter changed her mind and said some pretty hateful things to me, which of course husband didn't hear - he never hears this.  I did get upset but not terribly.  Daughter hasn't spoken to me since.  So tonight in the car on the way home for the airport, I asked my husband about this and tried to explain to him that I need him to step in when she gets disrespectful.  She is 26 y/o and should know better.  My husband informed me that I had a complete meltdown right there in the public walkway and was hysterical.  I do NOT remember this at all.  He insists that this happened.  What I don't understand is that if I was able to have such a meltdown that I don't remember it, why was I able to drive the car back in very very heavy traffic that I'm not used to?  I believe that I remember everything.  I remember getting taking a few wrong turns and the GPS recalculating to get us back to my aunt's city.  I remember buying my daughter some water before the meltdown supposedly happened.  If I was in that bad of a condition, why would they allow me to drive?  I asked my husband this and he doesn't have a good explanation.

He has always had blinders on when it comes to our daughter - he never sees her tirades at me.  My mom sees them..  My son see them and has even intervened a few times telling her to not be so hateful.  I have to wonder if she overreacted to when I did get upset and if she has managed  to convince him that this hysterical meltdown happened.  When I ask him what he means by I was hysterical.   All he can say is that I had a meltdown.  When I ask him what he means by a meltdown, all he says is that I was hysterical.  

If I was truly in hysterical meltdown, would I have been able to drive a rental car in an unfamilar area using a gps in very heavy traffic?  And why would they get in the car with me (or put my 1 year old grandchild in the car)?  Is it possible to have this sort of thing happen and truly not remember - to think that you were just a little upset?  If this is what really happened and I don't remember it, do I need to see a doctor?  I do take anti-depressants and anxiety meds but nothing major.


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Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 08-12-2014 - 12:11pm

Hi there! I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It's hard to say definite either way, but I would think that if you had a meltdown and were in hysterics, no one would get in the car with you. If you don't recall the instance, then it would have been, IMO, a BIG meltdown, and driving immediately after would have been a safety hazard.

Have you tried therapy with your daughter? Honestly I wouldn't put up with that BS from your own kid.  I'd either try to get to the bottom of it or figure out a way to cut her out for a while. It's obviously not helping your mental status. And if they are playing you (which it does sound like) I'd really wonder what else goes on. I'm sorry. :(