Anxiety, Depression, and Your Marriage

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Registered: 09-23-2010
Anxiety, Depression, and Your Marriage
Fri, 04-25-2014 - 12:28pm

"18% of the U.S. population over age 18 is affected by an anxiety disorder"

"Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), 18% of the U.S. population over age 18 is affected by an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in our country. Unfortunately, it is estimated that only about 33% of those affected receive treatment. Other statistics indicate that the lifetime risk for major depression is a sobering 17% and that mild, chronic depression affects approximately 3.3 million American adults.

With this information in mind, it’s important to be able to recognize some of the more common signs of both depression and anxiety. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, signs of depression include difficulty concentrating, fatigue, insomnia, excessive sleeping, irritability, restlessness, overeating, appetite loss, body aches and pains, loss of interest in pleasurable activities (including sex), persistent sadness or anxiousness, and suicidality. In contrast to a mild, situational anxiety that can arise when a temporarily stressful event (such as a job interview) arises, an anxiety disorder is diagnosed after at least 6 months of symptoms."

"Anxiety and depression are big issues that need not be faced alone. Life is complicated and often far too stressful. Remember to reach out for support. You, your marriage, and your family will be healthier and happier when you take small, significant steps to creating a more balanced lifestyle. With increased awareness and support, you and your husband or wife can thrive!"

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My husband has a hard time relating my my anxiety and depression. When my depression rears it's ugly head, he starts in with the "you just need to..." lines. Some good advice in the article. Anything you'd add? Anything that works better than others for you?

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 04-25-2014 - 3:01pm

For me, I've now learned to say, "Hey, I'm having an issue/episode right now. Just hold me." or whatever, letting him know that there is nothing he can do but I do need just some support at that moment. That has helped a lot. 


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Registered: 01-16-2013
Mon, 04-28-2014 - 10:46am

My husband's depression is the biggest hurdle in our marriage. He is unable to function at times and I struggle to deal with his complete lack of motivation to do anything. He is almost "crippled" from depression. There are times I just can't take it but other times I tell myself it is the same as if he had cancer or some other illness.

Nothing seems to help him and I am concerned he will end his struggle himself one day.