feeling lonely

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Registered: 01-21-2011
feeling lonely
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Wed, 12-04-2013 - 11:07pm

i'm really surprise that i am feeling lonely... haven't had this feeling in a very long time.. my bf is gone for 3 weeks so here i am alone with my cat. at first i wanted to be alone in fact i was so ready to have some time alone. i would have to listen to him complaining about things that are not important, like the landlord plowing wrong, and all these same things for years he keeps complaining about, i'm the opposite, i like not to talk that much and he can go on and on about things... he really waste a lot of his energy for no reason.  after a while it gets old, and i just shut my mind... maybe his age is causing him to get worse, don't know. today i went out window shopping and just needed to get out of the place since i was inside for 3 days. i'm not a winter driver but the roads were great so i took myself out.. suddenly i felt this terrible feeling of being so deeply lonely. i didn't like it.. some times i think of breaking up, but after today not so sure.. what would u do?  we been together for 27 years. we done a lot of break ups but stoppped that 7 years ago... i just don't know.. if theres anyone on here with any thoughts i would like someone opinion on this matter please.... thank u  suzy

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Mon, 12-09-2013 - 11:40am

You have been with your bf for a long time. It's very difficult to just separate your lives like that. Have you tried taking vacations and nights out without each other? I have been with my husband for 30 years and we both must have our time apart in order to continue living together.

Brenda

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Registered: 09-23-2010
Tue, 12-10-2013 - 1:40pm
Hi. I agree. You've been together for a long time that I think it's natural to feel lonely when you're suddenly without him, even with his annoying habits. ;) How are you feeling now?
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 12-10-2013 - 6:50pm

hi suzy, just saw your post, i will call you.

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Sat, 12-14-2013 - 11:58pm

hi brenda,  we really need more time away from each other... he takes everything personal when i want to go without him... he is to insecure it can drive me nuts... lol he's coming back home wednesday and i am hoping i can enjoy being with him... were not young... i'm 61 and he's 77... were did the time go....

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 12:03am
i'm still feeling like i am enjoying my time alone... awful, i only had that one time of loneliness and puff i've been happy ever since... i found myself doing things i always want to do but can't cause i know he'll complain to me...i'll tell you its been really peaceful being alone... i am hoping i'll be happy to see him back...
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Registered: 01-21-2011
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 12:05am
hi heidi, i really wish u could call me soon been wanting to talk to u... miss u so much... have your pics in my frame on my bureau think of u a lot... ♥