Bad day

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Registered: 11-28-2003
Bad day
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Wed, 11-02-2011 - 3:47pm

Today's my mom's birthday, and while I knew, since it's the first without her, it would hit me, I didn't expect it to hit me this hard.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: tiggrtch
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 7:08pm

I am sorry you have to go through this pain.

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Registered: 11-28-2003
In reply to: tiggrtch
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 9:38pm
I guess...
It doesn't help, as I was going through school work for the gradebook at the end of the day, one wrote my last name under "class" and next to it, "sucks #$%$#" I brought it to a colleague for an opinion and ended up writing up the kid for sexual harassment. If I had been alone, I probably would have cried.
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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: tiggrtch
Wed, 11-02-2011 - 11:44pm

I'm so sorry for your grief.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: tiggrtch
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 1:39pm

Becky,

Sending you many hugs.

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Registered: 11-28-2003
In reply to: tiggrtch
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 1:49pm

Well, I'm going to add to my bad day.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: tiggrtch
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 5:58am
I am so sorry and don't know if it was your fault or not. Something about losing a loved one and things happen afterwards to the rest of us. I broke my ankle 2 mths after hubby died, my mom broke her hip 3 mths after my dad died.
I am probably speaking over my bounds, but have you considered taking a stress leave from work? I know of at least 1 teacher who lost her job as she went postal in the classroom. I don't want you to have a melt down and face disciplinary action.
Just suggesting this as I care. hugs, Josie
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In reply to: tiggrtch
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 6:22pm
Mom passed in April. I crunched my first car in May, and got this one...then crunched it this week...on Mom's Birthday. I can't afford to take leave from work, and now can definitly not afford seeing my therapist. So now, I have no mom, no car, a husband who is not verbalizing it, but has to be angry with me, and I"m just feeling so very scared and alone. I"m highly afraid they wilil say I am at fault with the accident.

It's not helping that I'm hurting so much. The muscles in my shoulders hurt so much that I can hardly raise my arm. I won't even go into the bruising I have. Half the stuff going through my mind I can't even put into words.
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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: tiggrtch
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 5:59am

I am so very sorry. Is there a grief group local you can go to? The one at my church has been very helpful but I know someone that went to one at another group at a church in the other town. I have heard the program called: grief share is good.
I just thought if you meet with like minded grieving people you could work through some of your feelings. take care, Josie

p.s.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: tiggrtch
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 5:57pm

((Becky))

I just read your post about your accident.....are you ok?????

We are here for you, please know that.

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Registered: 11-28-2003
In reply to: tiggrtch
Sat, 11-05-2011 - 8:06pm
Physically, I'm pretty bruised up and have muscle stiffness, but otherwise in that aspect, I'm fine. Emotionally, I'm a wreck
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