Depressed or maby just jealous

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Registered: 11-03-2011
Depressed or maby just jealous
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 9:17pm

Im a gay 24 year old guy who is always getting upset when my best friend chooses his new girlfriend over me. I got use to us hanging out everyday and now since he got this girl he never wants to hang out or do anything. Its like he dont even want to talk to me at all. This makes me depressed because i always feel like im loosing all my friends because of this problem. When i try to talk to them about it, it always turns into a fight. Any advice to be given would be appreaciated.

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Registered: 11-18-2008
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 3:05pm
Hi countryguy123, I think this has happened to all of us at one time or another. It's hard to have to share someone who is so important to you, especially when you've had that person all to yourself so to speak.

Think back to the last time you started dating someone new. Remember that euphoric feeling? Well that's most likely what your friend is feeling right now with his new girlfriend. It's an exciting time in a new relationship where you want to get to know the person and spend all the time you can together. I know that doesn't make it any easier on you, but it's definitely something that starts to happen as people start dating more seriously and (gasp!) start thinking about marriage.

Hang in there and know that you'll always be friends, but right now he just needs some time to explore this new relationship.

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Sat, 11-05-2011 - 11:48am

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