Depression really is so hard

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Registered: 07-27-2000
Depression really is so hard
Sun, 12-16-2012 - 7:31pm

I've done tons of therapy with a number of good counselors, tried the meds (they either don't help AT ALL or I just get side effects as bad as the depression itself), exercise, use meditation CDs by the dozen, use any diversions I can come up with and there are plenty, I read a lot, relax in my whirlpool nightly, talk to friends and my husband a lot, use a journal online, try to eat right and thought losing tons of weight would help but not with depression, even completed a 10-day partial hospitalization program just last week designed to help learn new ways to cope with depression and the anxiety that tends to accompany it - didn't help that much, and I force myself out of the house as often as I can, although depression has turned me into a hermit - I just want to rush home to my hidey hole of a house.  I've tried everything that's ever been suggested and plan to try acupuncture - didn't need advice to try that, I already know from experience acupuncture indeed can work.  Despite all of this, the depression - clinical/major - persists and has gotten considerably worse this past year, I ended up in the ER a few weeks ago, which is what led to the partial program I did.  The psychiatrist with that program recommended medical marijuana for another issue and said in addition it should "mellow me out", so far it's just kinda making me droopy, if that's what "mellow" means to him.  My husband is checking on options for that and we shall see, but the main problem I'm trying it for is so miserable I have no choice, there are hardly any ways to treat it (stomach problem). 

I just know lately this depression is feeling completely hopeless, and like I said in another post, you start to feel so alone with depression, even with support.  I don't wish this on anybody but I know it's very common.  Where are the new drugs for it?  And for pain, which exacerbates depression?  If depression and pain are SOOOOO common, and they are, where are the new drugs?




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Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 12-20-2012 - 4:43pm

Welcome back to the board!!  Sorry you are struggling with depression.

I agree with what all the other posters wrote.  Getting your Vitiman D and Vitiman B6 and B12, I was told that if they are low, can make one feel depression and not have much energy.  Have you had any of these checked?

I know there are so many new medications out there.  The one thing I just recently learned about from my psychiatrist is a therapy called, TMS (transcranial magnetic stimulation).  My psychiatriast does it I think in his office.  I do not know much about it, but if you google it on the internet, you can learn more.  I am not recommending it, just letting you know I heard about it for the treatment of depression.

Please know we all understand what you are going through.  We are here to listen and support you.  Sending you many hugs and please post anytime.



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Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 1:40pm


Dealing with "Depression" myself...:(...

Started a new Anti-depressant and they upped the dosage.

Recently asked if I wanted to increase it, but I declined...

Trying to use my Tools in my Toolbox...;)...sometimes they work, sometimes they don't I add and remove some.

Vitamin B12 is also something to look into and have checked, it can cause low energy...

Doing something that you like or love...


I think we are also sometimes too hard on ourselves, expectations might be too high...

I try to get out and about but sometimes I think it's okay to just stay home and have a Mental Health Day...

With my RA (Rheumatoid Arthritis) I am in pain and along with that is Fatigue...

Also dealing with other health issues so I give myself permission to be sad, angry, or is what it is.

Figuring out triggers helps to.

Not necessarily avoiding them but just "knowing"...

Christmas is a difficult time for a lot of people for different reasons.

Do what you need/want to do...



Merry Christmas...

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Registered: 07-27-2000
Tue, 12-18-2012 - 10:51pm

Funny you should mention getting Vit D levels checked - I just saw a dietician yesterday to figure out what the devil I can eat and how for this miserable stomach problem I've developed.  And she strongly recommended getting Vit D checked, too, so I guess it can contribute to lots of things.  I have bad pain, too, hoping "alternative" drugs might help - I am going to try it, the real thing.  My DH already checked that one out.



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Registered: 07-27-2000
Tue, 12-18-2012 - 10:49pm

Can't run or even walk a great deal because of a knee replacement and the other one coming down the road.  I do use a really good exercise bike when I can get myself together enough to do it.  It's like everybody says, there's no magic bullet.



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Registered: 03-20-2009
Mon, 12-17-2012 - 12:12pm


Depression is just so hard like you say. There seem to be so many meds, so many suggestions, therories, etc out there and yet it continues to be a major problem. I wish I knew what the answers were that would eradicate it. I got told my VitD levels were dangerously low and that contributes to chronic pain and depression. I am taking that now to see if it will help.



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Registered: 09-10-2012
Mon, 12-17-2012 - 11:28am

I know so many people suffering from depression and no one really seems to be able to find a permanent solution for relief. I have to wonder if somehow people are being poisoned.

I don't have depression but my husband does. We recently started jogging and it seems to help him. I don't know if it is because he is now preoccupied and has something to look forward to or if it is really helping. Maybe joggign would help you?