DH depressed--wife needs help!!!
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|Wed, 12-12-2012 - 4:27pm|
I am hoping you can help me understand what's up with DH right now. We have been married for 17 years, together for 21. We have two sons, ages 13 and 11. I am 42, he is 44. Literally a month ago he told me he was depressed, then he described his plan to kill himself and make it look like an accident to our conselor who drove him directly to the ER and he spent a week in an inpatient facility. He came home for a week and a half and moved out on Nov 29. He says it's temporary, but man, I am going crazy trying to figure this out. He gives me very little to go on. He told the boys he is not coming to Christmas Mass and they are devastated--one is serving and really wants his dad there. He is only coming on Christmas Day for a little while. He is staying about an hour away at a friend's house, so I guess he will leave his family who loves him and go sit alone, which seems pretty dumb to me--why would you walk away from the three people who love you the most and be alone if things are difficult? He has all of a sudden remembered/admitted lots and lots of child abuse that he never dealt with, so I see that he needs to make peace with that, but does he have to do it alone? Obviously he thinks he does, since he's the one who left.
Help me understand this please!