Don't know what to do

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Don't know what to do
Sat, 01-28-2012 - 11:23pm

Things have been fairly good in my life until tonight. Just a little commonlaw of 23 yrs moved out with our son into a house to help him with his bills. Our son now has his own family....four months old.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 10:43am


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Registered: 08-06-2009
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 5:59pm

Hi, puglover - I agree with promise that your commonlaw is abusing you.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 8:22pm

I agree with the others and would say also that common law is def. exerting what is called financial abuse over your head.

What you can do is maybe contact your local dv agency and womens displaced home makers program and see if there are any programs for you to attend or ask about.. You might be eligible for state assistance since you are not married to commonlaw. You might be able to get help with food or money or schooling to get a better paying job.. There also might be food pantries where you are and angel ministries. If you can find other sources of money or saving money you might then have enough for rent and car payment.. Are you capable enough of working another part time job??

This man is going to continue to bully you if you dont stop it.. and besides he can pull the plug on your financial at anytime so its a false sense of security on your part.. I would take the bus if I had to..

I was married and divorced a bully like you have.. I struggled and still am struggling because of finances and I know how hard it is but its emotional blackmail if you keep feeding into this.