How many "close" friends do you have?

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Registered: 10-10-2007
How many "close" friends do you have?
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Sun, 09-16-2012 - 6:34pm

I was just thinking about friendships.  I once heard that the average person can manage to have at most 10 friends at one time.  Meaning they hear from each one of them at least once a week.  I will look up the actual statistics for what I am trying to explain, but in the meantime, I was curious to know:  how many "close" friends do you have in your life? 

Feel free to add any more information about friendship to this tread.  Just wanted to start a conversation about how many friends people have?

(by the way, I do not mean facebook friends, LOL)

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

Honestly, not too many...;(

Since my heart attack and the diagnosis of RA (Rheumatoid Arthritis) and other Chronic illnesses that I am currently living with I have become more and more isolated.

Partly due to the Depression and also "Mobility" issues...

I do count my dd and ds as friends...:smileywink: because we are really close the three of us.

Recently, I lost one of my friends.

Obviously things change as we grow older and our kids begin to grow up.

People move and Our Lives change.

My Lifestyle is different, I am not working.

Some of my friends are busy with grand-kids etc.

My kids really have no one else but me, their dad my ex isn't actively involved, no grand-parents actively involved.

I try to get out as much as possible.

I go to a peer support group here and also to the one where I used to live.

Moved recently so trying to explore and make new friends.

One friend I made might be moving herself but we are going to try and keep in touch...:smileywink:...

Very Cool!

I was in an "Abusive" relationship so that had an impact.

Everyday I try to get out.

My ds worries I moved here to a new city for him leaving behind my family and friends.

I think we ALL get "LONELY" sometimes.

No matter how old we are or how many friends we have.

It is hard living with Depression or living with ANY Chronic Illness.

I love the BOARDS here because they are ACCESSIBLE no matter how I feel.

Makes me feel so much less "ALONE"...

Volunteering is a great way to meet people and make friends.

Since moving here I have found people to be very friendly, I like it!

I may not know you in real Life Heidi but feel like you are a close friend.

I know that whatever I was going through or struggling with you would be there in a Heartbeat, it means a lot.

<3

About the ONLY person on my FB is my sister.

She lives pretty far away so it is how we keep in touch.

I don't remember the last time I saw her, it was a long time ago.

 

Nightangel
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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007

Thank you Lorie for the kind comment you made about me.  You are correct, I am here.  When I was young, and asked what my life goal is, I use to say, "I want to be a friend to everyone".  LOL  I try, but not everyone wants to be my friend (grin).

I appreicate you sharing.  What city did you move to again?  I have cousins I consider friends too.

Like you, I have tons of friends in another state because I moved.  I consider you a friend too!!

 

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

I moved not too far from where I used to live but rather not say what city...

Never believed that when we moved we would actually not stay same place but actually move to another city altogether.

Very big deal for my ds and me.

Not too sure if you knew this but I live in Ontario, Canada.

Thanks Heidi!

Nightangel
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Registered: 10-10-2007

Sorry, for asking what city.  I remember now that you live in Canada.

Sending many hugs :heart:

 

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Not enough! I really would like more friends and have always had trouble making good ones. Seems like people move so much these days, and many start off decent getting together and calling, but then just fade away. I always think it is my fault:smileysad:
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Registered: 03-28-2003

 Perhaps it’s because of depression but not nearly as many as i used to. i've lost touch with some very dear friends over the years to worry of what they would think of me now. i keep touch with some through FB but it's easy to pretend and not show the real you there.. my question is why is it so hard to make friends the older we get? i move to where i'm at about 4 years ago and while i have "friends" none really fall into the category of best friend hang out and have coffee.. I need and want to expand the number of people in my life but find it so challenging what do all of you do? have you also found it hard to make new friends?

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

~hugs~

No problem Heidi.

It's just for my own peace of mind.

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

I lost a lot of friends to along the way with moves, mostly theirs....

My ds and I recently moved to a new city so I am trying to make new ones.

I don't think it's your fault.

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001

I think Depression does tend to "isolate"...

My ds and I moved recently so I am trying to get out and meet people.

I am fifty-four and on a disability.

Where I live I go to a peer support centre.

It helps me to feel connected and not quite so alone.

 

Nightangel
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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007

This has/is a interesting topic.  I think I gathered from most of you that when we ourself move, that changes it all.  I know that is the case for me.  Maybe it is harder to make friends as we get older because when we were children, we were with like 20 other children every day and we grew together, so maybe that formed the bond of close or best friends? 

Now, we are adults and everyone is busy.  We are not growing together anymore, maybe????

I just joined the group:  meetup.com  I heard about it on another board and thought I would try it.  Has anyone ever joined it?

 

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