I don't understand this

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Registered: 01-20-2005
I don't understand this
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 11:53pm

As I've posted before, my marriage is a roommate situation and not even a good one at that and I don't understand why I don't want to try to make it better.

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Registered: 08-06-2009
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 10:19am

Hi, tobylady - I understand what it's like to think a situation should change but you

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Registered: 02-08-2012
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 3:24pm
Hi tobylady, you and I could be the same person! I have been experiencing the same situation. My husband is an amazing man and father. He takes care of us and loves us unconditionally. Unfortunately, I (like yourself) don't appreciate any of it. The "roommate" situation is so hard to deal with. I couldn't deal with it. I've told him that we can't be together, it's not fair for either of us. I am hurting him and myself in the process. I am not financially secure and I am raising five children. But in order for any of us to find peace in our lives this is what I have to do.
There isn't any right or wrong answer to your situation. I will encourage you to look deep into your heart to find the best decision for you and your husband. The fact that he is a good man doesn't necessarily mean he is good for you, or you for him. Everyone has the right to be happy. I truly hope that you find the rainbow after the storm.
Kim
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 02-09-2012 - 12:25am

Hi kimins - welcome to the board.

I appreciate your response.