Melt Down

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Melt Down
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Sun, 11-13-2011 - 9:39pm

So the last time I posted I was having a hard time with my work. Well I had a melt down on Wednesday last week. Went to work and with in about 15 minutes my boss came to me and told me I didn't do something good enough for her. All I had to do is package up some little pads of paper for a customer and I put them into piles of 12. Thought that would be alright. Then the last one I think had mabe 15. Well she didn't like that. Then she said that I embarrassed her the day before because I made a mistake and told her to charge a customer for something and I miscounted the items, I was three short. It wasn't a big deal cause I remembered after. So she said I had to be careful etc. So after our little talk I went to the back to work, had to fold a bunch of paper. (I work for a little printing company) I lost it I couldn't hold back the tears anymore. I had to go to the bathroom. Three days in a row she'd done this to me. So I calmed down and she came to talk to me again. I LOST IT. The tears were pouring. I told her that she's making me feel terrible and everything thing she tells me I take personally. I told her that she hurts my feelings all the time. She said that she will back off and watch her temper. She ended up giving me a hug.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: puglover71
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 4:21pm

Hey Puglover,

I think that telling that woman how she was making you feel was a good thing.



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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: puglover71
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 10:24am
Well yesterday she was very cranky general. But didn't say anything to me. Just feel on edge. But I do kinda feel better getting that off my chest to her.
As for my husband, here's another thing. He helps me with my rent, let's me drive his car, also he's paid for me to go to Cuba this January. So he thinks that I owe him. It's so hard!
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Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: puglover71
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 3:25pm

Hey,

yeah, that is hard but if he chose to help you this way then he shouldn't expect repayment other than thanks. It's kinda like he is using his help as weapon against you.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: puglover71
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 9:29am
I just got a text message. He said that it's been two months and only had it three times Nd if I want him to start having sex. I really don't know what to do He could take away the car, quit helping me pay rent. Then I won't be able to afford to live!
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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: puglover71
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 11:49pm

I'm so proud of you for talking to your boss.

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In reply to: puglover71
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 2:24pm

puglover71,

I left you a message on facebook.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: puglover71
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 5:54pm

Wow;

It sounds like your husband holds you hostage with paying your rent and car.. Sounds very familiar as I was married and now divorced from a man who was controlling. My ex also demanded sex and since I didnt feel safe with him I didnt have sex with him. He threatened me all the time with divorce. I finally got fed up and left him.. I had nowhere to go and I had no money but I did it..He never paid me a penny for two years when we were separated. When we divorced I got more than I ever would have staying married to him..

I would go to a lawyer for a free consulation and check out laws. Not for a divorce but for knowledge and to see what your rights are in