question on thoughts...

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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 8:30am
Hi...i was wondering if we can control our thoughts some of the depression can go away? I read that some people got rid of their depression and was manage to cope after...but I know its a chemical imbalance too. I was wondering if anyone heard of this too...whether its through a book...i relapsed four times...it would be great if this can happen and know more relapses..
I'm just wondering on what your thoughts on this matter...
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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 2:14pm
When I started seeing someone for my depression/anxiety, I was told that it isn't good to ignore the feelings. It is better to acknowlege them and figure out the 'why' behind them.

I was having post tramatic stress disorder from me being hospiralized. If my mind would wonder to anything medical, or if I watch medical shows, I will get that knot in my chest. Sure you can say to stop watching the shows, but I love medial stuff! I think very scientifically so it was very hard to stop doing what I love, KWIM? I would say to myself that this is stupid, get over it!! it is in the past! My therapist old me that my mind is saying something, but my body is saying "hey, wait a min, I still need to heal"

All that to say, in theory, stop having those thoughts is a good thing, but you have to question why you are having those thoughts in the first place. Easier said than done!!

Can I ask you what do you mean by relapse? I have been feeling great since Easter. Just fantastic!! The first time in YEARS I can honestly say I am happy. There are a few reasons 'why now', I have made a few good friendships. (I always thought people just didn't like me and that's why I didn't have any friends here) My meds have had enough time to really work, I have been taking supplements that could have helped.... I didn't have an Ah Ha moment or anything so I really am worried it won't last. What happened to have you relapse?
Marianne, mom to Margaret (01/02), Elizabeth (03/04) and Annabelle (07/07)
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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:17am

Great question!!!

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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:28pm

Hi...

Well..what I mean about a relapse that you don't feel right in a sense. I went off meds and off for about three years or almost three years. It was flipping great being off, but it was a struggle to get off too, I was on effexor xr at 150mg. I don't recommend people getting off medication without consulting your doctor first. I did it with the guidance of the doctor after speaking with her. Anyway, I was off for three years. It felt great that I conquered it and no meds! Then, two years later...almost two and half, it started slowly in a sense...I was wondering whether I was relapsing, I mean, I was slowly losing interest, I wanted to sleep more, but I ended up forcing myself to get up, even though I felt like sleeping more, but I diligently woke up, a struggle though, concentration, my focus was starting to not be there....but I was healed

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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:31pm

Hi...

Yes...I do know what you mean! Its true...some depressions I have learned is chemical and then there are some that is not...situational...but we must consult your doctor to find out before making assumptions on our own case. Talk to your T and doctor first. Everyone is different....

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Sun, 06-19-2011 - 11:55pm

Interesting!

Marianne, mom to Margaret (01/02), Elizabeth (03/04) and Annabelle (07/07)
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Mon, 06-20-2011 - 10:08am

I have generalized anxiety disorder too. I know what you are saying about the anxiety part...I get chest pains at times...I know it is my anxiety most of the times. I get it every so often.

I have been working on my anxiety as well. Self-talking is my weakpoint, but I'm working on it. I guess that is where your thoughts come into play too right? If we can stop those thoughts in their tracts, then we conquered that obstacle, we just need to talk ourselves out of it at the same time! Easy said than done, but its possible. I'm getting better, but I'm also working hard at it too.

Do you see a T still?

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Wed, 06-22-2011 - 11:22pm

My therapist explained it to me this way.

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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 10:31am

Hi, giggles219 - there is a form of therapy called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, whch works on the idea that your thoughts control your feelings, and then the feelings lead to self-destructive behavior.

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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 3:07pm

Hi..

That's what I have been doing now...its hard sometimes...I've received homework which is fine to what I am reading in a sense...basically finding a solution to it. It's hard sometimes, but I guess it takes time. How long did it take you? Just wondering....I will get her to read it too...