Sorry : and an update

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Sorry : and an update
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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 1:10pm

ys,

I am real sorry I have not been around much lately. I have been kinda managing to stay on top of my own boards but that's about it. My partner got sick the moment we started our vacation and had to be hospitalized. His mom has just gone to check he is getting out today. He looks just awful as he has lost so much weight and then I am worried he is going to be mad at me because I am not eating and there is just so much stuff going on that it is real crazy and I feel I am losing my grip on life.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 08-22-2012 - 1:11pm

Promise, I'm not sure who this post was for as it said "ys" at the start, so I'm being nosey and butting in :-), but just wanted to say I hope you're making it through this. I am sorry for all the difficult things happening in your life and I hope you can start to get things back on track and feeling better. You're in my thoughts. Take care of yourself.

allie

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Sun, 08-26-2012 - 7:21pm

((hugs to you Promise)) :heart:

 

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 08-26-2012 - 10:07pm

sorry everyone is feeling so bad.. I am also and lately trying so hard to just let go and let God..It works on a good day. I figure if I cant have anything in life that I want I will just hang in there and do whatever I can do.. It sucks most of the time and I realize I might never have anything again that I truly need so I am trying to trust the Universe and I cry alot..

As far as what is going on with you guys you dont want to say anything but its frustrating to me anyway  to not be able to understand what you guys are experiencing and going through.. I wish we could all be honest about what m akes our lives suck.

Please dont flame me...

take care

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 12:24am

Hi freeatlast,

I don't know what, "please don't flame me" means, so hope I am not doing that :smileyhappy:

You responded to me, so I was wondering if I am one of the people you are refering to about being open and honest?  I thought I was honest in my post.  Please ask me questions if I was not honest or if I was not clear about something I wrote.  I will share if I have not already.

Thanks for posting this.  I am glad you felt comfortable sharing your thoughts with us!

 

 

 

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 7:03am

Oh; Sorry Heidi I just had clicked on the last post but didnt mean you per say...

No; I was just referring to the fact that I dont think any of us truly open up about why we are so down and out.. Its hard to relate to a post like that.. I know that people are private and dont want to tell their story but to me that is frustrating and I dont know why people are upset about their lives.. Hard to read minds.. I guess we have to respect privacy though yet its still frustrating.too bad we cant all talk in person in a group or something..

So I am afraid to say something private because no one else is saying much.

thank you so much.. Flame means that I hope no one gets offended at what I said and says something negative and backlashes..

 

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 7:45am

Oh okay :smileyhappy:

I also wish we could talk in a group setting.  What are your thoughts about me picking a scheduled day each week to be in the chat room?  I am not sure if anyone is interested, but I would love to chat!

Thanks for your response!

 

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 1:16pm

Hey Guys,

 

ys was meant to read hey guys but I was so flustered only typed the ys bit. Sorry, sure didn't mean for it to sound like it was posted to someone particularly.

Thanks for the support. My partner is home now, not eating well enough but getting mad at me for not eating. He's been told to rest but he is already talking about getting back into his fitness routine. He is so stubborn!

I was supposed to see my family but things didn't work out good though Harmony did come stay a few days.

Talking in a group but a private one is a great idea. This is an open forum and I don't feel comfortable with sharing some aspects of my life here. Heidi knows some of my issues and I know will understand why I choose not to make some information known. I am sure you guys would respect my right to being able to talk about certain things and would not judge me on them but not everyone is as kind and respectful as you guys are. I have been attacked IRL so have become very worried about sharing stuff.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 10:26am

I think it's hard in this format to be completely open and honest. It's not a private group; this is public and anyone can read this. If I need to post here, I guard what I say. And I understand that others do that well for their own well-being and safety. I was once part of a private support group and people were very open about what was happening as the whole world coudn't read it. I figure when someone comes here feeling badly, but I don't understand what all is happening, the person is looking for someone to hear what he/she says, someone to give support and just a place to vent as little or as much as they want. Please don't take this as a personal criticism, as it's not meant to be, but in your post you refer to feeling badly but don't let us know what is going on with you. It's the same for us and I understand why you or anyone here would choose to do that in such an open forum. I don't have a problem with that. Yes, it does sometimes make it difficult to know how to help someone, but none of us here are therapists and we do the best we  can to support each other. At times a few of these groups have been all I've had for help and they've been a lifesaver to me.

allie

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 1:54pm

I hear you and that is okay.. I guess I am a very open book and will always say how I feel or what is going on..

I must have talked about my personal issues alot on here.. I just dont know where the posts are right now.. Trust me I say way too much all the time but I am thinking?? Who the hell would read this stuff anyway? We are anonymous and I doubt strangers would even care what we write especially me.. I dont think anyone would care or even know who I am? I just spill the beans alot but yes that is me..


As far as me and my life and why I get depressed is because I would like my own place to live but due to finances I live with family .. I also am an aging woman and my dating pool is shrinking and it gets to me being alone alot..  I am also looking for any type of work but I apply and nothing so far.. So these are my challenges right now as we speak.. I am also in some debt and live on a fixed income so that is also a struggle. These are my issues and they get me depressed and its that simple.. Although I am very proactive most of the time I get setbacks and so this is where i am in life. I dont like labeling myself a victim because when i was married I was married to an abusive man. We are now divorced so I am a survivor.. I dont like that word victim so I dont want to go there anymore..I dont think I have major depression or a chemical imbalance and I dont take meds.. I walk alot and watch my diet and I do talk therapy with friends.. For this I am very greatful..Oh; and I pray alot which is helpful..

For the good part of my life.. I have friends and family who keep me grounded and are always there for me.. I am able to have some income that gets me by and I go out and have fun when I can..

So I am forever greatful for things but there are good days and bad days..

That is my life in a nutshell..

take care

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 08-28-2012 - 2:05pm

~hugs~

<3

Lorie

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