things are not good...

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Registered: 08-26-2007
things are not good...
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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:03am

Hi all

New to this board but not IV. Having a bad day and just need to vent.

I am in my late 40s, married with 2 kids. I work full time and like my job and love the people I work with. I have some good friends but I don't make friends easily. I have a good size family but in the last 2 years have lost three close family members which has basically blown my family apart. I grew up with my cousins as my best friends and socializing with my extended family and I just don't have that anymore. I am feeling so lonely.

My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we seemed to have hit a wall in our married life. He is consumed with his work

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:12am

Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Sat, 06-18-2011 - 8:09pm

When I read your post, it seems eerily like my situation.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Sun, 06-19-2011 - 6:26pm
Thanks for your responses.
Yes my husband and I have talked about this numerous times. He knows exactly how I feel. We had a big argument about it this morning so he got out of working and came with us! I was glad but it was short lived as he mentioned that he scheduled himself to work during our summer vacation so we will be coming home a day earlier than I'd thought I honestly can not deal with this any more.
My goodness brat chick. There are a lot of similarities! Sometimes I can't wait to be alone. My youngest is heading off to school soon. I'm sad that part of my parenting life is over but he is an extremely difficult child and the last 18 months have been a nightmare at times so I have mixed emotions about him leaving. I am so fed with his constant post graduation partying that I can not wait for him to go.
Sorry to hear about the loss of your loved ones. Two years ago my cousin who was my dearest friend lost her battle with cancer. Twelve months later another passed. Both were my age. Then last fall my brother in law also died from cancer. My sister has kind of gone " off the deep end" so we aren't as close as we once were and in fact barely speak so It's as though I've lost yet another family member.
Yes. My therapist says the same thing about the " time of transition" but I do want to get on meeds because I'm sick of being so miserable. Thanks for the pep talk. I'm sorry you are going through something similar but appreciate hearing that I'm not alone.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 7:11pm

Katnicmom,

Just checking to see how your doing?