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Fri, 09-30-2011 - 11:10am

Things are a tiny bit better. My man got some work, not a lot of money, but anything is better than nothing. The problem is, his boss is cheating him out of pay, so I am not sure what will happen with this job now. I have been in A LOT of pain so that has not been good. I am sure

     ~ Tina ~

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In reply to: a_new_me394
Fri, 09-30-2011 - 1:40pm

I am glad things are going better for you!!!!

I read in one of your other posts that you may be doing CASA.

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 4:24pm

I am having car trouble and feeling suicidal again, so I may never doing CASA or do anything. Between my chronic pain and depression and my life handing me one huge crisis after another every single darn day, I do not know why I bother to think about doing anything positive. I get knocked down everytime. So, I am not going to bother. I need to lay in bed, rest, and only take care of me.

I live with a woman who used to be my therapist. She stopped being my tdoc when I moved in with her and her husband. I see someone new, but I am not allowed to tell my new counselor who this woman is I now live with. The tdoc that I live with, who works 12-15 hours a day/ 6 days a week, whom I barely see, is paranoid for anyone to know I live there. I cannot bring my finace around. I have to travel to see him. I am having car trouble and I cannot have him come to help me. I had to drive my car there and hoping it would make it there so he could look at imy car. She let me move in with her because

     ~ Tina ~

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 4:30pm

Would you like to chat with me in the chat room on our board?

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 4:37pm

Wow, yes, it must be hard living with her and her husband and on top of that keeping it a secret!

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Sun, 10-02-2011 - 5:20pm

I am ok for now. I am just sick today on top of everything. I am having hot sweats with cold chills. I do not have a fever, at least I do not think so. I deal with hot and cold sweats often. Most like peri-menapuase, not sure, but I feel sick to my stomach too. Then I have the pain going on and then the stress of everything. It is only a very bad day.

I probably should not have moved in with this woman, but when she offered it took me 2 months to go along with it. I was desperate because where I was living was killing me. Even though I go back to the place I lived at on weekends, it is better then full time living there, however, this arrangement with this woman causes me stress too....a different kind, but stress none -the -less.

I am exhausted and want problems to end. I mean, darn, I just want a break. I know I am not the only one with problems and I know problems will come and go, but I just want my own place and privacy. I want to be able to live my life and have people over and do my own thing in MY home. I am grateful for not being on the street, but this woman and her paranoia is driving me crazy. I applied for food stamps and she does not want her name on the form for social services, but said I can use her husband to fill it out.

I had no idea, but this woman has more issues then I do, believe it or not. Her son is constanlty getting speeding tickets and has gone to court for DUI and she will claim it is the police harrassing him and it is not his fault.....WHAT??? I had no idea a person with a psychology degree would be in such denial about her son's troubles. Like I said, I just want to be in my own place. I would like to be in my own place with my man and us getting along. I miss our old house so much!!!!

We have two dogs, one stay with him and the other with me. I want all of us under the same roof and having a more productive, joyful life. I am totally exhausted from all the stress the past 2+ years. It has been so constant that it has literally aged me and has made me physically sick.

     ~ Tina ~

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Mon, 10-03-2011 - 8:38am
HI, I am sorry you are going through all of this, I don't know about the state you live in, but in Ohio, there is ethic laws with a set time frame of how soon after therapy is ended can a therapist and her client even be friends, so she is probably concerned if it gets out she actually let a client move into her house, will she have to answer to some ethics board. I hope you find a different place to live soon. Josie
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Mon, 10-03-2011 - 1:25pm

Yes, there is an ethics law here too. It is nationwide for the entire United States. You are to NEVER be friends with a client as far as ethics is concerned because the relationship is not equal. The therapist knows too much about you. What bothers me is she does not trust me, so why let me stay there???

     ~ Tina ~

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Tue, 10-04-2011 - 1:51pm

I e-mailed

     ~ Tina ~

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Thu, 10-06-2011 - 5:47am
Thanks for explaining and with my own experience, I now believe a therapist should never cross the line with a client. I saw a second therapist through much of 2007 and when my husband died last November, she wanted to be my friend, we went to a meal twice and I felt so awkward, alas she is in same office my long time therapist is and one day she jumped me in front of other clients, why hadn't I called or emailed her? It was awful, I so wish I had never gone out to even 1 meal with her for as you said they know our secrets and with real friends you can have some boundaries.
I also have only 2 sisters left, one lives 2 hrs away, the other 10 hrs away. No uncles or aunts or cousins in my life. No kids of my own, so I know the alone feeling.
I hope you find a different place to live soon. Josie