Awkward situation with my therapist 0_o

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Awkward situation with my therapist 0_o
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Fri, 08-31-2012 - 4:55pm

So since moving I've recently had to get a new therapist. I called Mental Health but they have a 3 month waiting period and I can't afford to wait that long. So they referred me to another practice. There's 2 therapists there and one of them my bf sees. I intended to speak to the other one. However, she doesn't take my healthcare coverage so she then referred me to the other lady. I informed her that my bf goes to her and I didn't know if that would be a conflict of interest. Apparently, she didn't think it would be a problem. So, now we see the same therapist. It's not that I mind really but it seems a little awkward. I dunno why. It's not like I would discuss with her anything I haven't already said to him. I'm just like that. You never have to guess what's on my mind :smileytongue: I kinda like her okay too so I'm sticking it out for now. It still seems awkward though. He says it doesn't bother him at all that we're seeing the same therapist. I dunno why it still feels so weird to me. I'm not even sure if it's really appropriate for her to agree to see us both either.

Anybody have any suggestions or thoughts about this?

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Fri, 08-31-2012 - 5:44pm

Interesting article :smileyhappy:

I guess I don't really have a problem with whatever info she may or may not share with him in regards to me. I'm very open with him so there's nothing she could say that he wouldn't already know. I guess my concern is that we're not seeing her for couple's counseling or specific to our relationship. We both have our separate issues and although I don't mind sharing with him and having him to support me when I need it but I don't want our sessions to become focused on whatever relationship issues we might have. Yes, there are times I need to discuss possible issues we might have but mainly to vent it and work it out for myself before deciding if it's something I need to discuss with him. But again, if she were to share any of it with him I probably wouldn't care. I have nothing to hide.

Also, although he says he doesn't have an issue with me seeing her I'm not so sure how open he is with her and if he would hold back because he's afraid of me finding out stuff he might not be ready to talk to me about. He says not so I guess I have to just trust him on that.

I can see how it could be beneficial yet at the same time I'm not sure how much I really trust her to stay objective. I don't know her very well so the trust isn't established quite yet.

 

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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 4:28am
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Fri, 09-07-2012 - 12:54pm

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