Husband is getting worse again - not sure how to handle
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|Fri, 02-01-2013 - 9:13pm|
My husband is 53 y/o and is an exercise bulimic. He eats but his foods have little nutritional value and he exercises away any calories that he takes in. He was hospitalized for a few days a couple of years due to passing out. Doctor diagnosed him as being malnourished and called in a psych consult. Psychiatrist gave him the anorexia and bulimia diagnosis. He referred my husband to a psychologist and a nutritionist. His general doctor has a lot of training in psychiatry so she handles his meds and checks his bloodwork regularly. He was doing pretty well until recently.
My brother died in May very unexpectedly. Then my dad got critically ill in June. In October, his mom had heart failure while driving and had to have a pacemaker. There were complications from that. Then in November, my dad had an accident, was hospitalized, caught pneumonia, and had a massive heart attack. Dad passed away three weeks ago. And during this time, our daughter has had two miscarriages. So we've been under a great deal of stress. Me more than him as I'm the primary caregiver of the four elderly parents.
I've asked him how his last doctor visit went. He is still anemic but said all else was fine. I can tell he's loosing weight again. And tonight I just listened to him ride the exercise bike for a full hour. Today he has eaten a boiled egg, a piece of toast, a gallon ice cream bucket of iceburg lettuce and a carrot, a sweet potato (no butter or sugar), a piece of fish - baked - no butter, another gallon ice cream bucket of lettuce, and a carton of sugar free jello. This is his normal diet. So today, he's definitely burned more calories than he's taken in. When I mentioned it to him, he just brushed me off. Oh and he's choosen to quit his anxiety medication.
I am grieving for my daddy and need a husband that can support me but I can't turn to him for fear I'll send him back to the bike. I want to talk to him about a issue that I have with him and the garage but I can't. Right now, I'm having to walk on eggshells trying not to upset him. I just think I'm gonna take an Ambien and go to bed. I need all this to just go away!!
Any input you can give me would be appreciated.