I got some really bad news...

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I got some really bad news...
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 10:24am

I'm having a really bad day.  My only close girl friend told me last night that she has been seeing a psychatrist and they have tentatively diagnosed her with paranoid schizophrenia.  I knew that she was struggling lately, but I didn't know that things were this bad.  I also don't really agree with the tentative diagnosis, but what do I know since I'm not a doctor.

I feel really guilty because my first reaction was fear because I heard that paranoid schizophrenics can be violent.  She has never shown any indication of violence, though, and she said that it's a common misconception that all paranoid schizophrenics are violent.  Some of them are, but not all.  But now I'm worried if she does actually get diagnosed with it and she tells people, they will be afraid of her.

I also feel guilty because I thought, "If she gets a diagnosis for something this serious, what is wrong with me?"  She seems like she has it all together.  She works full time, takes care of her daughter, is a good wife to her husband, etc.  I am not even close to having anything together in my life, so it makes me wonder if something is really wrong with me, too.

Anyway...I'm just feeling awful and wanted to share with you guys what is going on.

 

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 08-21-2012 - 12:30pm

Hey Butterfly,

you and Maryah are real sweeties. I will be OK, just need to get my head on straight and it's not happening right now.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 03-20-2009
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 8:02pm

Hey Butterfly,

I am not mentally or emotionally in a good place right now but I just wanted to say that these days all these mental illnesses can be helped so much and it sounds like your friend has taken steps to getting the help she needs. It can be real hard to know our friends are going through this but we can help by giving them our support and love and also helping them to educate others as to what our illnesses involve. It is mainly lack of knowledge of mental illness that causes others to be afraid. We can help them and ourselves by passing on our knowledge.

I know , I tend to think just exactly what is wrong with me at times too. The mix of ED and depression can be a hard thing to deal with but we will make it.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:21am

It's true that not all schizophrenics are violent. I dunno on what basis the doc came up with that diagnsosis but if she doesn't agree she could always get another opinion right?

As for other people's reactions, I dunno what to say. I think it would be really unfair for people to push her away out of fear when she needs them the most. However, mental illness is often not treated fairly by society :smileysad:  I've lost a lot of friends when I got really sick. They claimed they didn't wanna "see me that way" and wanted to remember me "the way I was."  I gotta say that really hurt!! Then I realized they really weren't my friend anyway. If they were, they would have supported me and not walk away.

She's lucky to have you!! It sounds like you really wanna be there for her and are a good friend :smileyhappy: She may seem like she has it put together but sometimes it's easy to make everything look good when really it isn't.

love,

ryah

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