Question about husband

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Question about husband
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 9:15pm

I posted quite a while back about my husband's anorexia and exercise bulimia.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 1:37pm

Hey,

I am real sorry you are having to go through all this with him being negative and all.



iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 8:58pm

Thanks for the kind words.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 9:21am

Hi

wow.. sorry to say but I couldnt imagine dealing with this for 30 years.. You are def. a trooper of sorts but the def. of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. (sorry)

I am not you but I would def. ignore him and yes leave his stuff to him.. You cant

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:39pm

I know I am insane:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 1:39pm

Sometimes it just seems so scary to make the jump and cut the ties.



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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 2:42pm

I agree with Promise.. It is very challenging to leave a comfort zone but its doable.. Millions of people get divorced all the time and we all survive somehow.. I also felt more alone in my marriage.. When I left as I had a great opportunity because like you I couldnt go on my own I realized that I could explore so many other things out there that were available to me.. Like I could live or work or have friends

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2005
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 9:46am

I have prayed a lot about this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 4:49pm

I sure hope that something will come up for you.



iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 7:17pm

Toby;

Have you ever gone to an attorney and not necessarily for a divorce but to see what your rights are and what you would be entitled to in case you divorced.. I know each state is different but most of the time marital assets are split and there could be alimony assets, etc. involved and all.. (just saying)
It sounds like money isnt the issue and if you had the money you would probably stay with him.. That is your choice but to me that is so sad and since life is so short its even sadder. I would probably just live my life and ignore him if you stay there..

Lets say you stick around what would happen if hubby died or left you and then where would you be?? What would happen if you got sick and needed help.. Would hubby take care of you like you take care of him?? Seems like a one way street in your house.
One time I thought that if I was with my ex and I got very sick the thought of him taking care of me would be zero and I didnt want to be with him if I got sick or died. I would rather be with people who love me and who would take care of me and give a flying fig.I also didnt want to live my last days with a toxic person.. I am almost 58 now and sep. and divorced for seven

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:40pm

I just feel like if I had a full-time job that I could make a choice.

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