Teen son with eating disorder

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Teen son with eating disorder
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 12:51pm

My 14-year-old son may have anorexia. He's scheduled for a psych consult in early May, but for now we are at a loss of what to do. His primary doctor has been next to useless with this, just telling him to eat more (yeah, like WE haven't tried that!). He's lost 35 pounds in six months. At 5'7, he's only 96 pounds, and eats very little. He also seems depressed. Early this morning, my ex-husband found him lying on the floor in the kitchen crying. He no longer takes pleasure in any activities and is exhausted all the time.

What can we do to help him? Is there anything at all we can be doing? I'm absolutely terrified. Being at my job (which sucks on a good day) has become incredibly difficult, especially on days like this when my son is at home alone (he felt too depressed to go to school today). I want to be there for him but don't know what to do other than telling him I'm here for him and that I love him. Please help!

Angie

 

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:08pm

Sweetie, either change your doctor or see if you can speak to another one.



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Registered: 09-17-2003
Tue, 03-27-2012 - 2:22pm

Thanks for your reply. I rarely try to get him to eat more because I'm worried about it backfiring, but his father is incessant about it. I'll pass along this information to him.

I'm thinking of taking my son to urgent care. Not sure what they will say other than "eat more" and to seek a psychiatrist's opinion, which is what we are doing May 2. As someone with major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder myself, I'm well aware of how useless primary care physicians can be in these matters.

My child is fading away before my eyes. I'm terrified and feel so helpless.

At what point does it become a medical emergency? How will we know when he needs to see a doctor right away? The current doctor doesn't know the answers to these questions, and while we can schedule him an appointment with another doctor, it will take a few weeks for a new patient appointment.

I've decided to approach my supervisor about going part-time so I can be with my son right now. It's not right that work obligations are getting in the way of trying to take my boy to the doctor. What can I say--my boss is a HUGE jerk.

I'm sorry if I'm rambling; I'm just at a loss right now. Thank you for listening!

Angie

 

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Wed, 03-28-2012 - 8:31am

Don't worry, you are not rambling and I feel that being able to post about your worries helps the mind focus better.



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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 03-29-2012 - 12:29pm

Sorry you are going through this. I agree with what Promise has said. Going to the ER is a good idea. My family did that to me and I was admitted. I was angry but I probably would have been angry if they didn't do anything too. Honestly, that's what I would do. I wouldn't wanna wait. He's losing weight rapidly and not getting enough nutrients. That, to me, constitutes an emergency. At least at the ER they can evaluate him to see if he is medically stable.

I'm glad you came here! Keep us posted and take care of yourself!!

much love,

maryah

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Thu, 03-29-2012 - 12:48pm

When I worked in a hospital, a young girl didn't want to eat, she begged her mom not to make her eat.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Thu, 03-29-2012 - 3:06pm

Hey,

welcome to the board.

Yes, being the food police just makes things worse. The causes of ED are so varied, as you say could be psychological or, as in your case, physical. I hope they manage to sort it out soon for this young man. I always feel so bad for anyone who gets stuck in the ED trap.