Trying to save a life

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Registered: 12-06-2011
Trying to save a life
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 11:53am

My sister-in-law is 62 years old and throughout her late teens and twenties battled anorexia to the point of

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 2:43pm


welcome to the board.

The main problem here with anyone who has an eating disorder it that unless we see what we are doing, and accept the help offered, attempts to help us can often trigger an even more strong reaction against food.

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Registered: 01-13-2012
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 2:07pm
Unfortunately, in my experience, until she reaches a point where she is ready to make changes in her life, she probably won't listen to your concerns or advice. My husband tried for a number of years to try to break through to me and get me to go to counseling, but until I had hit rock bottom, I refused to do it. Even if, deep down, she knows she has a problem, she probably won't be willing to seek help until she sees a significant impact to her quality of life. I know it is heart-breaking to watch and I am sorry for both your family's pain and her own. In my opinion, the best thing you can do is show her that you are always there for her, willing to listen and help, no matter what, without any judgement. She has to know that she can trust you not to think less of her if/when she is finally willing to seek help.