Always having to apologize for having strong opinions

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Registered: 09-26-2009
Always having to apologize for having strong opinions
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Sun, 08-14-2011 - 6:43pm

Any of you get down on yourself because you are known to be an opinionated person who sometimes doesn't hold back? I've tried to change but realized this is truly a quirk in my personality and I've accepted it. The problem is that it bothers me (due to low self-esteem) when my best friend refuses to talk to me for days because some of the things I say offend her. Quick example, I've said to her that I think her husband is controlling and she repeated it to him so now he doesn't want her to be friends with me because he says that I misinterpret the facts about their marriage. And it is not my business. Things like that.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
you know what? i think it's good to have strong opinions and to express them. so many people are afraid to speak up because they think they might offend someone. we don't have freedom of speech in this country for nothing - use it!!! it does sound like you hit the nail on your head regarding your BFF's husband; if he weren't controlling/insecure then he wouldn't care what you think about him. good one.
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Registered: 09-26-2009

Happy pants- there's a small update to my story since I've written my post/question.

Apparently, my friend no longer wants to be friends with me because the husband thinks I have too many issues (depression/low self-esteem, financial problems). I've confided in her about many of them. Ironically, this is someone who has some issues herself (bi-polar),

Would you even respond/defend yourself to this person or just assume the friendship is beyound salvaging?

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Registered: 10-12-2006
if it were me, i would leave her alone for a while so she can sort out her own issues. my best friend and i have had to take breaks from each other from time to time. it hurts at first but it turns out okay.