Can you really switch your self-esteem around?

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Can you really switch your self-esteem around?
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Tue, 06-03-2014 - 2:35pm

If you have low self-esteem, how do you go about raising it? Is it just positive thinking? How do you retrain your brain? Has anyone had any luck with this on your own, or can y ou recommend any books? My sister has bad self-esteem and I'd like to approach the topic with her, but I want to be armed with info. :)



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Registered: 08-25-2010

well I am no expert but I would suggest that if you have negative thoughts about yourself you should tell yourself to "stop" thinking those stops.  just a thought.

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Registered: 08-25-2010

me again, maybe this book will help  The Ultimate Self Esteem Formula



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Registered: 01-04-2004
for me, it was learning how to think for myself, not how society/the media says i "should" think. i question what i hear from the outside world and decide if it works for me; if it doesn't, i throw it out. if it does, i incorporate it into my life. it's kinda like when you read harper's bazaar or vogue or some other fashion magazine that is talking about the "latest" style and you think that you just HAVE to have the clothes that you see in the photos, but what if those clothes truly don't flatter you or aren't your style? if you buy them anyway, that will lower your self-esteem because you're letting a magazine tell you what to wear (i.e. how to think) instead of deciding for yourself. i know the analogy is a little corny, but we do this all the time; we just "obey" because it's easier, but then wonder why we don't have any sense of self. so if i were you i'd take my sis to barnes & noble and sit down with a few women's magazines; go through the articles about fashion and beauty and ask her how she truly feels about each one...does she agree? disagree? why? or you guys can watch tv together - look at each commercial and figure out what message it's trying to send, then ask her if she agrees with the message. i think she'll start to feel better when she formulates her own opinions about things, and maybe it'll help you a little, too :) good luck!
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Registered: 12-21-2001

Greetings Kennedy!

Be positive. Think positive. Be realistic.

If you need those basic ideas in print: There are shelves of books in bookstores and reams that can be printed from the net just by putting 'self-esteem into your browser.

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