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Registered: 09-26-2003
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Wed, 04-27-2011 - 6:55pm

Not sure if this is where I need to post this but couldn't really find a place it would fit. I am having issues not sure if its due to self esteem or just ingrained crap. But due to when I was younger I was always taught by my step-dad that I was not allowed to speak to him unless he asked me a question. Now as an adult I find it very difficult

Cherie, Joseph, and Toby
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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: kinderclan4
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 9:44am
hey, kinderclan, it's nice to meet you. it probably has more to do with ingrained behavior than self-esteem; do you act the same way around other women? maybe your stepdad was just teaching you to respect your elders; one way to do that is don't speak unless you're spoken to. i'm sure he didn't mean don't initiate conversation with someone that you're attracted to! i am reserved and won't talk to you unless you talk to me first; i've always been like this and try not to look at it negatively (i think of it as the prize inside the cereal box - you'll never know what i'm like unless you open the box, lol). if you're feeling shy around a guy, do you make eye contact with him or smile or anything?
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In reply to: kinderclan4
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 6:28pm

Hi.