How has my life turned out like this?

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Registered: 03-15-2011
How has my life turned out like this?
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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 6:30pm

Here it is a Sunday afternoon..I'm feeling pretty low right now.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 8:14am
hey, butter, welcome to the board. i hope you are feeling better today. friendship is a pretty popular topic on this board, so feel free to browse through the older posts because a lot of people have given some great advice. i have roughly the same amount of friends as you, which is okay most of the time but sometimes i feel lonely, too. i've found that the best cure for loneliness is to be around people; even if they're not your "friends", you can still be friendly. go where the people are - stores, the gym, church, wherever - and talk to them. take a class in something that interests you, learn how to play a team sport (like softball or volleyball), and if you feel like nobody's calling you, well, how often do YOU call THEM? do you make an effort, or are you just sitting back and waiting? every time you start to feel sorry for yourself, do something about it.

also, the idea that most single women have groups of gal pals is just an illusion perpetuated by the media (think 'sex and the city') and is predominately false. most women (single and married) are like you and me - a few scattered friends here and there and talking just to our moms on the phone. i sort of think the idea of having a bunch of BFFs is suffocating, anyway, and i wonder where that came from. but the bottom line is, if you feel lonely, go talk to people. everybody feels that way sometimes.
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Registered: 03-15-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 4:08pm

Thanks for your response.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:33am
you're welcome. sunday afternoons are a major time for any type of anxiety. yeah, you do have to keep trying even when it feels hopeless. what about volunteering, or another part-time job? i'm glad that you are signing up for cooking classes; what else might you be interested in? what kinds of fun things are your coworkers doing with their boyfriends or other friends? i was wondering if you could do those things on your own, or there have to be other people involved. i think being single is what you make of it; you can do whatever you want whenever you want to, and that's awesome (to me, anyway). a lot of people aren't happy unless they're with someone, and i never understood why (i think relationships are overrated). but i understand why you might get jealous, or at least feel left out. do they ever include you?
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Registered: 05-06-2007
Sat, 05-21-2011 - 6:16pm

If I could get someone to give me a dollar for everytime I have heard a woman (not just young) fret over not having friends.....I would be rich and they would be broke!!